Originally posted by sobeys_gurl:
should i try and give it another go with the man that I'm positive I'm supposed to be with, or should I speak to Mike and see how he feels with giving us a shot.
Let me give you a hint, darling Mandii...if you are positive you are supposed to be with someone, you will not feel the urge to try out someone else.
I will admit, sometimes I have to shake my head a bit when I see things like this because it just doesn't seem to make sense. If you're after your ex, go after him. If you're after Mike, go after him. But don't jump into something with one while keeping your eye on the other. Not only is it rather unkind to them, it ends up hosing you in the process.
You see, having feelings for someone means that you want to spend more and more time with them. It does not mean you want to spend more and more time with them while you case the joint looking for someone else to be with; or while you become more and more enamored to a friend whose shoulder you've cried on.
I know you know this, and I think it's more likely that your words just came out wrong. (It happens to the best of us!) But either way, the fact remains that you should pick what you think is best for you, and do one thing at a time. If you really think you're "supposed" to be with your ex, now would be a good time to start making that happen. On the other hand if you feel like now would be a good time to test the waters with someone else and see if they're better for you, you might want to ask Mike out and see if he's interested.
But for the love of brie, keep it simple. Balancing two guys is a lot like running through a hallway with a carton of eggs. You trip up once and the whole thing becomes a mess.
BruinDan, "Number Three," PHOM
Beware the naked man who offereth you his pants.