My breasts are far from an erotic zone - they're not very sensitive at all, it's just like my arm or back, any other part of my body. Oral stimulation does nothing for me - it's not like he's no good at it, it just doesn't do anything. Manual stimulation has limited effects. My clitoris enjoys direct stimulation and fingering is fine, but both in a "oh, well, this feels kinda nice" way. Like petting a dog.
Most often, penetrative intercourse just gets me to a point where I feel 'full'. It's similar to what happens when I masturbate - very often, I'll get to a point where nothing feels good anymore, and I just have to stop. It frustrates my boyfriend because all he wants to do is please me, but I have no 'buttons' to push. Nothing excites me.
My first orgasm was while doing a pull up - I guess muscle contractions are good. Now, I can have very mild orgasms by rubbing against my hands or various objects and tensing my abdomen and legs, which is how I masturbate, but it can be quite ineffectual at times.
Yeah, this may be normal, or maybe I'm different like everyone else, but how can I respond more to sex? Could it be an attitude, or just not trying the right things, or what?
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HI freznow and welcome to Scarleteen.
I think it can often be helpful to remember that every body is different, and not all the buttons that are usually considered to lead to arousal will work for everyone. Many women, for example, find that breast stimulation does little or nothing for them sexually. The normalcy of this can be tough to remember as breasts are so often treated as sexual.
You said this is frustrating for your boyfriend. How does it feel for you?
This article may give you some different ways to look at this, and we can definitely discuss it further.
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