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Hey I am just wondering if watching too much porn can affect the gaining and maintaining of erections?
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No it has no effect on your erection what so ever [Smile]
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If you associate arousal with something in particular, whether it's watching a screen or always sitting in a particular position, it can make it harder to feel comfortable with sex (partnered or otherwise) in other contexts. Watching porn can also create unrealistic expectations for partnered sex that can lead to problems later, which might include reduced arousal.
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so just cut back?
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I wouldn't necessarily say you have to cut back: Just keep in mind that real sex is usually nothing like porn. As long as you are aware of how sex works in real life as opposed to how some things are portrayed in porn (such as what women are into, expectations for how long sex should last, etc), watching porn now shouldn't have any negative impact on your sex life in the future.
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The idea that we can easily tell someone what is an ok amount of porn to watch and what is not an ok amount of porn to watch is pretty flimsy (no pun intended...). As others have mentioned, it's possible to get some unrealistic expectations from porn, depending on what type of porn you are watching, and certainly we can become conditioned to respond to a certain stimulus and that can make it more difficult to respond if that stimulus is not there.

However, watching porn does not automatically prevent you from getting aroused if you're not watching it. I'm curious to know more about your question: are you just worried about that, or have you had the experience that you've thought that porn was having a negative effect on your ability to get or keep an erection?

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I have been having trouble getting and maintaining them around my GF and I am thinking it may be in part to the fact that I look at porn just about every single day. Literally everyday. So would that affect my arousal to my GF?
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It might, it might not: that's pretty individual.

Of course, you can test that theory very easily. In other words, why not try taking a substantial break from the porn to see?

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How long would you say a substantial break is? a week?
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I'd suggest a couple weeks, just to get some idea of if it makes a difference (and if it does, expect you'll probably see a bigger difference with months away, or with shifting to far less use after those couple weeks). Often, with sexual habits and patterns, it can take a while for us to really adjust to them and feel changes.

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Crap! a couple of weeks!? I really don't know if i can hold off that long!
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...and that's the kind of feeling -- with any media, really, or any "nonessential" behavior -- where it might be time for any of us who feel that way to evaluate if our habits are healthy or are compulsive.

In other words, if a couple weeks of no porn is sounding like torture, it may well be that your use is impacting you negatively in more than one way, including you becoming obsessive or compulsive about it, or having your whole sexuality be becoming about porn, which most experts agree (including the ones who aren't anti-porn, or panicky about porn) isn't so healthy.

[ 04-06-2009, 08:21 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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yeah it isn't the porno. i can easily get erections but maintaining them is my problem. what should i do???
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That was four days ago, patego. Like I said, it may take longer than that for you to see any results if that was the issue.

Are you feeling otherwise attracted to your girlfriend, like your relationship is healthy, like sex together is something wanted? Are you dealing with any depression, negative feelings around sex, anything like that?

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Not really. I just found that it was hard to get/maintain arousal and I think it may have been due to the porn addiction. I looked at porn at least once a day and always have masturbated to porn. So i wonder if that was the problem. I haven't looked at it for awhile and have recently managed to masturbate without porn (first time ever) so i wonder if I am making progress lol
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