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i really dont know a lot about sex but i have a question: what is considered sex?
kissing on the lips, kissing the body thats not considered sex right? sex has to involve the vagina or the penis yes? im sorry i really dont know can somebody please clear it up for me? also the "bases" would only third and home be considered sex? making love confused again is that sex? or can it be sex but doesnt have to be? can making love only involve kissing and touching but no involvement of the genitalias? thanks for the info

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That depends on what angle you're looking at it from.

Regarding the risks of sexual activity (pregnancy and STI), you'll have to count everything where there is genital contact.

If this is more of an emotional query, then it's very much up to you. Just kissing someone can be as intimate as intercourse. It depends on the importance and meaning you attach to any given activity.

As far as terms like 'making love' or the infamous baseball analogy, that's not something we can be of much help with. Those expressions mean different things in different regions or even different groups of friends.

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Most people I know hold these to be true:
Sex=penis penetrating vagina.
Making love=sex. (Most people would say that the term "making love" would indicate more loving or romantic sex though.)
1st base=a kiss and a hug.
2nd base=making out, french kissing.
3rd base=oral sex.

As said before, these are far from universal definitions, but most people I know at least would agree to these...


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Again, I think it's really important to emphasize what September has already said -

Manual sex, oral sex, and penetrative sex all carry STI transmission risks and possible pregnancy risks (if not properly protected).

Also, again, as far as the baseball analogies? They are not all exactly the same person to person and area to area, and to give an example of that, I can specifically say that in the area I grew up, and for the majority of people I know? Most people hold slightly different definitions to be true than the ones AnonymousSexDude listed.

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