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Hi, So I read a lot of the information you had to offer on the subject. I recognize that I may be a little overly nervous, but I have an intense fear of pregnancy and this is my question, though it may not present a risk. My boyfriend and I were fooling around, he released in my mouth, I spit and washed my hands, and then went back to lay beside him. He later used my saliva to lubricate his finger to finger me, What is the pregnancy risk here? I recognize I'm being irrational, I just need a qualified knowledgeable being to tell me I am. So I can put this worry to bed. I'm very sorry for going on. Thank you.
We're not actually doing pregnancy risk assessments anymore, but all the information you need to figure this out for yourself is in there. (And, if you still have any specific questions after going through it, happy to answer those.)
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No need to apologise! We just ask that everyone do their best to assess their own risk first, and then come to us for clarification if necessary.
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I know. I feel silly. I just keep looking at all this and I cant get myself to be logical. I really appreciate your time.
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No problem. Do you want to talk about strategies for dealing with your anxiety, and where that anxiety might be coming from?
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Strategies would be really helpful thanks. I feel I worry about pregnancy because I'm a little bit ashamed of my actions. Not that I feel like I've done something with him I wasn't comfortable with, but because our family and friends are very disapproving. Disappointing them further gets me in knots.
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Feeling that your family and friends disapprove can definitely put a big damper on your sex life, so it's not surprising that you're stressing about disappointing them. Has anyone actually expressed to you that they disapprove, or is it more of an unspoken thing?
Per strategies to deal with anxiety, doing whatever it is that you find comfort in helps a lot: watching a favourite movie or reading a good book, taking a bubble bath...anything that would help you relax a bit. You might also want to think about whether, with even a no-risk situation being so stressful for you, if sex of any kind is something you want to engage in right now. Have you talked to your partner about your worries at all? Is he in the same boat per his family and friends?
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Thanks, those are really great suggestions and they've already started to help me a bit. I've decided just to talk to my friends and family about my relationship and hope for their support. Maybe they'll come around. Anyway, thank you again.
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As for my boyfriend, yes. Same boat. He is less effected by it though, I think. Anyway, hes been very kind and supportive in my anxiety and he's willing to cool off our physical relationship a bit until I feel more secure again. I think things will work out.
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We're very glad to hear that. Please don't hesitate to come back if you need more information or support.
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