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VerySocialHermit
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Whether it's masturbation, oral sex, OR fingering, I get a sharp uncomfortable pain in my clitoris right as I feel myself about to orgasm. It has been so bad I've cried in the past, and so I stop and have never experienced an orgasm.
I HAVE seen a doctor about this, in the health center at my college, who has consulted local gynecologists as well. So we know it's nothing dangerous or a health concern, just an inconvenience. Extra lubrication has not helped. She suggested a numbing cream, but that's really the last sensation I want! Touching over the clitoral hood just doesn't feel good.
Anyone else know what could be going on and what I could be doing about it?

I just recently started having penetrative intercourse, so once I get used to that maybe I'll find myself able to orgasm that way.
But in the meantime...

Thank you!

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Heather
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This pain, it doesn't feel like hypersensitivity, or like seriously amplified pleasure? I ask because sometimes what's painful and what's pleasurable can get a little murky.

Also, you're sure this isn't happening after orgasm, but before? Can I ask how you feel certain you're about to orgasm if you haven't ever reached orgasm?

What that happens, have you tried moving to something like more indirect clitoral stimulus to keep going? Is there something pretty specific you're doing, a specific way you're being touched, when this happens?

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VerySocialHermit
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It does feel like hypersensitivity - that has a tiny bit of pleasure but overwhelmingly pain.

After a lot of stimulation, it starts feeling better and better, I feel my body tensing up and it's like all of this is building up inside me and I'm waiting for that release - but before I feel anything like a release I feel hypersensitive and everything just has to stop. So I relax my muscles and try to calm down.

Me or my partner stroke the clitoris. We've tried several different angles. Stroking the hood doesn't feel like anything. Is there any other kind of indirect stimulation...?

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Heather
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Well, the clitoris, internal and external, is a LOT bigger than just the shaft and the hood. For instance, it has legs (crura) that extend into your outer labia and near your inner thighs. The shaft of the clitoris can also be left through the mons of the vulva with some stimulation, too. And even more important than that, the clitoris is still only one body part. While when it comes to genital sex, some kind of clitoral stimulus is something many women and enjoy and mane need to reach orgasm, that's not exclusive. Your whole body -- not just your clitoris, not just your genitals -- and mind offer opportunities for orgasm to happen.

But here's the thing: I'm still not sure you're not reaching orgasm. When you say you don't feel a release, what do you expect that to feel like?

Sometimes that can be so vague and tough to describe, and it's hard to find good comparisons, but one that can be very similar is if you've ever exercised in such a way that you really feel a rush of endorphins hit you, then kind of come down after those. Have you ever had that experience?

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