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Hi! I don't know if i'm being paranoid but I don't know if I'm pregnant and i'm freaking out
I went on Loestrin24fe(the birth control recommend by my gn) for among other things ovarian cysts.
Anyway I got to near the end of the pack when I missed a day, I hadn't had sex up until this point, so I took two the next day. I became so incredibly sick from it I stayed up half the night vomiting, no joke. The next day I was at a family thing and missed my pill again. Despite my boyfriend yelling at me I couldn't go through taking two again and told him I was going to get the ring or something. So I just stopped taking them. About 2 days later I got my period, that was April 23rd and I had already got my period on April 1st! This wasn't just mild spotting it lasted and was as heavy as my other periods and went on for about a week. 1 day after my period ended my boyfriend and I had sex and he went in unprotected, but didn't ejaculate and there wasn't any on there, i think, ya' never know. 2 days later he tried going in unprotected but I stopped him just in time but he got pretty close and he mightive had some on there. Anyway I was supposed to have gotten my period a few days ago and didn't. What's going on? Is it because I already got it on the 23rd? But my sister said that might not have been my period and just a side effect to the birth control. I'm seriously freaking out. What should I do? Is there a chance i'm pregnant? I know I shouldn't have had the unprotected sex but I didn't see it coming and the birth control I was on had be gaining weight and being sick every time I had to take 2 on the same day. I just wanted to go on the ring.. What should I do? Please help.
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Unprotected sex does present a pregnancy risk - it's lower if your partner did not ejaculate, but there is still a risk. You can take a test as soon as it's been 10-14 days since your risk. (Unprotected sex also presents a risk of STIs, so if you and your partner are not up to date with your screenings, you'll want to get that done in about a month.)
The period you had was likely a withdrawal bleed (the "period" you get on the pill) - being on the pill creates an artificial cycle, and periods are triggered by the drop in hormones during the pill-free week. So, the timing of that period isn't unusual.
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It wouldn't technically be a period, because it was triggered by the drop in hormones from the pill rather than your body's natural cycle. However, the withdrawal bleed that happens during the pill-free days still involves the shedding of the lining of the uterus, just like a period would if you weren't on the pill.
Does that make sense? (It's late here, so if I'm not being clear, please let me know.)
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yeah that makes sense. So are my chances for pregnancy as high as I think they are? Because I'm really considering walking 7 blocks at 1:27am s to the nearest all-night drug store and picking up a test. Does this mean my next period will be on the 23rd as well? Because I was supposed to have gotten it around the 1st to the 5th
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Since your partner didn't ejaculate, your risk is quite a bit lower than it would have been if he had, but there is still a risk. It's impossible to give an exact percentage - all we can say is that your risk is likely low to moderate. You can take a test now if you like (as long as it's been at least 10 days since this happened) but it won't make any difference if you wait until the morning; in fact, it's generally recommended that you test with your first morning's urine, since it tends to be more concentrated.
As for when your next period will show up, it's hard to say. Generally it takes a few months for cycles to settle back into a pattern after going off the pill, so you may find that your periods are irregular for awhile.
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thanks so much you've been a great help! I feel really dumb for letting this happen. I really just want to break it to my boyfriend that don't want to have ANY sex until i'm on some sort of more manageable birth control. i can't go through paranoia again. He said that I'm probably not pregnant because it was right after my period, but I knew something was up. Arrrrgh
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Stepping away from sex for now sounds like a good idea, but you know you can always use condoms, right? They're very effective when used properly, cheap and simple to use. I have to say, too, that it doesn't sound like your boyfriend's being terribly supportive or respectful in all this - yelling at you for not wanting to take two pills at once is not in any way okay, and neither is brushing off your concerns about pregnancy.
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we have a lot of issues that's true. I usually want to use condoms but he makes this big stink out of not being able to get it up or sometimes kinda sneaks it in without..
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I'll have to agree with Karybu and say that it sounds like it's not such a good idea for you to be sexually active with this partner right now.
The fact that he has tried to manipulate you into having sex without protection just confirms that he is not a very caring and respectful partner at all. I've got to be honest and say that your partner's actions are really raising red flags for me. Purposefully ignoring your explicit wishes to use condoms and entering you without is incredibly disrespectful.
So I would say that, at the very least, you two will want to stop having sex until he can step it up and start to respect your (perfectly reasonable) boundaries. If he can't do that (and especially if there are a lot of other problems, as well), then you may really want to think about ending this relationship.
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I know I just feel like I can keep overlooking those facts. I don't know why. I have told him multiple times but I don't know...
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The thing is, telling him isn't likely to change anything. Someone behaving this way isn't likely to stop because you tell them you want them to, since they're usually so self-centered (thus, why he's acting this way), so they just either don't care or don't have the maturity and personal growth to be able to see outside themselves to care yet.
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