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The other day, my sister was saying about how her friend had thought he was gay, but then decided he was bi. And my parents and my gran, who had come to visit, seemed to find this hilarious! My gran certainly seemed to think that 14 is way too young to question your sexual identity, and thought it was really funny that he had changed his mind about it twice. So a kid who's really confused about his sexuality and trying to work it out is funny? Why are people like this? (As you may have guessed from the title) this makes me MAD!!!
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well, it's better to find something funny than repulsive. I know that if I mentioned something like that to my grandmother, she would be horrified even at the NOTION of sexual deviancy. And maybe you shouldn't be so quick to be offended. It's just like adults looking at how early kids are dating these days (sometimes I'm shocked when I see some of my sister's ten year-old classmates with boyfriends) and laughing at their naivete. It's not that they're mocking your sister's friend, maybe they just find it amusing that a young teen would try to figure out his sexual identity (and change his mind) so early on in life when they themselves didn't even really think about such things at that age.
And, by the by, I've IDed as so many different things that, looking back, I can have a good laugh at myself. So don't sweat it, smileyjoseph, I'm sure they meant to laugh, er, "with" him.
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It's also worth remembering that until relatively recently, it was an absolute given that everyone was either heterosexual...or distrubed and/or deviant. In other words, recognition that there is even a process of forming sexual identity/orientation is a very new thing. I'd expect very few grandparents to be able to get it.
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Well yeah, I suppose that's true. For the record, my first 'date' was at the tender age of 4, and my first 'kiss' came at 6. So 10 year olds? No big.
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seriously? my first kiss was at 6, too o__O No dates yet, though. (I'm going to stereotype myself and say that it's an "Asian thing")
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I'll be honest, the 'date' was a joke, that was just going out with a female friend. The kiss, though? Deadly serious. No tongues though I'm afraid.
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