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Kara Zor-El
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I have a wonderful relationship with my girlfriend that's been going on for about four months now. There hasn't been a day that we haven't seen each other since we started dating...until recently...

This past weekend, my brother and his wife took me to New Orleans for my birthday gift. We had such a great time but I missed my honey something fierce. Anyway, we went to this karaoke bar on Bourbon Street where my big bro and sis-in-law proceeded to sing everything from Lesley Gore to Bon Jovi. This total cutie pie barmaid kinda latched on to our group and I, not being much of a singer, was left sitting alone quite often. This gave Stephanie the waitress an opportunity to kiss me. I didn't stop her and I quite enjoyed it. But I felt so guilty. Nothing else happened and I called my girlfriend right away and told her what happened. She just wrote it off as innocent fun and said she wasn't pissed because I was so immediately honest with her. I can't believe how wise and forgiving she is! For some reason, I'm worried. I still feel so ashamed and I'm terrified that my girlfriend is now scrutinizing my every move. I keep picturing her exploding at me out of the blue like a couple of months from now. Is there anything I can do?

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a.boo
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i ahte to say it, but not really. You can confront your girlfriend and risk ruining the relationship, or you can just put it to hte back of your mind and try to carry on as normal. Be warned, she may do the same to you.
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Kara Zor-El
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quote:
Originally posted by a.boo:
i ahte to say it, but not really. You can confront your girlfriend and risk ruining the relationship, or you can just put it to hte back of your mind and try to carry on as normal.

I'm sorry, but confront her about what? She knows everything that happened and she's forgiven me -- my concern is that I'm still feeling really guilty and I can't seem to shake it.


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ashes_girl
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hey i know what ur talking about cuz mt g/f did the same thing that u did and i did what ur g/f did just forgot about it but it does hurt alot cuz she is always with the girl she kissed but i trust her so i dont really have a major problem it might just mean that she trusts u well bye
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*transient
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hey,

well I guess if she says she forgives you, then you just have to go with it...and if she knows how bad you feel about it, then she will probably forgive you. She probably feels alot better that you told her right away anyway, instead of trying to hide it. She knows you're honest. I guess the only way to feel better is trust that she really does forgive you, and give it some time, and you'll probably think about it less & less.


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