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PixieDust
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So yeah. I want a kid. Now I know I have a lot of time to figure out how to aquire that kid...but I dunno. The idea of me carrying a child is just really scary to me. I'm a wimp for pain, and well, I dunno. But if she carries it (she= my life partner,TBA) then if something happens with our relationship, I have no rights to that kid. There's adoption, but we all know how easy it is to adopt as a gay couple .

Any of you considering a child? Or have you, and what method did you choose?


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Gumdrop Girl
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have you read some of the posts in Pregnancy and Parenting? They're full of insight from a lot of moms and moms-to-be (wish there was more input from some daddies, well they might come around soon enough).

Having children is going to change your relationship dynamic not matter what, gay, straight, poly, or whateverhaveyou.

Are you considering this later down the line, or like pronto? I'd be awful wary about trying the latter. I mean, you just started college, and that's a tough thing to juggle with an undertaking like a kid.

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PixieDust
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No...this is like after college, after seminary...pretty much like 8 years down the road.
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I don't mean to make light of your problem but I'd like to point out that eight years is long enough time for many things to happen.

By time you're ready for a kid you could also actually want to be the one carrying your child. Laws on gay adoption may actually make sense. New fertility technology may provide a solution. Or you may not actually want a child anymore.

So don't give up hope yet.


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PixieDust
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quote:
Originally posted by PixieDust:
So yeah. I want a kid. Now I know I have a lot of time to figure out how to aquire that kid...

Yeah...I have plenty of time to think this out...


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