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I know that you young girls that have discovered you are pregnant are very scared and maybe not ready for whats to come. I have never had a child but my sisters had kids when they were 15 and 17 and I understand what they went thru.. I was there!! So I thought that I would try to take these findings at a lighter note!!! If you are keeping your child (which I think is great) then what are you gonna name your kids? when I have kids the first girl is gonna be Destanee Raylene. and if its a boy Evan James' Does anyone else have any ideas for these young mothers. Or do you moms to be already have it narrowed down?!!
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well... I'm not sure if I'm pregnant yet... but whether I am or not... I have thought about names... what teenage girl hasn't.... for a girl i like Emma Marie or Tamara Renae and for a boy i like Tyler Jaymes or Trey Michael Posts: 5 | From: Kansas | Registered: Jun 2003
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wow, thats great yeah my sister is 24 and has a 8 yr old boy named Tyler Ray and a 5 yr old daughter named Audrey Ilene and another daughter that is 4 named Sidney Danelle. and my other sister is 26 and has a 9 yr old boy named Devon Paul and a boy that is 6 named Auston Michael and a little girl that is 5 named Ashlyn Hailey Michelle! They are beautiful children and I love them to death. and my brother has 3 girls. two are 5, Erica Kay and Jasmin Sierra. and then he just had a baby girl named Olivia Lanee. and he is 23. yes I have a huge family but im 20 and still have no kids.. I completely support my sisters and brothers and are glad that they were good parents and took care of all their kids but on the same hand I am very proud of myself for not having kids at a young age!!
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I'm 15 and i'm 23 weeks pregnant. i found out on my 20 week appointment its a GIRL!!!! i'm so excited i'm naming her Amity Trachelle. I thought that I was going to give her up for adoption but i decided to keep her .She's my baby. This is the only thing in my l;ife i haven't ran away from. Shes due on october 22. I'm having a natural birth. I would really like to talk to you girls so e-mail me -- email edited out --
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An extensive thread on naming babies. You'll find more if you search this forum and It's All About You.
Rachelle, please do not post your email address or any other contact information in your messages. It's for your own safety, and it's also part of the guidelines which you agreed to follow when you signed up to use these boards.
Furthermore, these boards exist for the sole purpose of discussions between users. - Why use email when using this board for its intended purpose enables many to profit from your questions and other user’s replies?
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I think my first daughter will be named Ariyae Ameya *I had a dream that I was pregnant and thats what I named her* and I think my first boy will be Tyryl(Tyrell)
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As someone who's got a common name with a rather unusual spelling, I'd advise anyone who's considering it against getting too unconventional. I never got a toothbrush with my name on it, teachers corrected me when I wrote my name, and my boss NEVER managed to spell it right -- nor do most people who aren't ultra close to me. Unusual names can be cool, just make sure your kids aren't going to be too burdened by them.
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yeah I hear that.. I have seen some crazy names cuz I work for a credit card company and I talk to people all day on the phone and I HAVE to say there name or I loose points and MAN there are some names out there that I try to pronounce but Im sure that I butcher them everytime!!\ my name is pretty easy though.. my middle name is a little different but my last name you can just spell out!! my middle name is Raylene (ray-leen) and my first name is Erin which is pretty easy. but I have a friend and her name is Tanamae Glendayla.
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My son's name is Stephen Alexander (Alexander being his middle name). It is important to me that middle names have a meaning and not just be another name. I spelled Stephen (pronouned Steven) that way so no one would be tempted to shorten it to Steve. If and when I have a girl her name will be Rebecca Marie. If I have another boy I would like something like Kristopher or even Christopher. Simple but meaningful. My son is nearly 2. He is THE cutest thing I have ever seen, and like frozendreams, he changed my life. I graduated Cum laude this year, because my son forced me to get my act in gear to make a better life for him. But it was never remotely easy, but my son is worth it and more.
I think Milke makes an excellent point. I heard of a case (I am not 100% sure it is true) where grandparents took parents to court over what they were naming their child. The name incorporated every letter of the alphabet. I little excessive in my opinion. A name has to have meaning in my opinion. You child is gonna have it forever. I know someone who names her child after she sees him or her and spends some time with him or her. That way she knows a little about who they are. (We are talking a day here, not weeks)
Good luck to you Amity'smommy. It is a bumpy, curvy, dark and scary road ahead, but at the end of the journey it is more then worth it. You will realize that you were put on this earth for your child.
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yeah. I think that a name is very important also. thats why I want to name my daughter destanee becuz she will be my destiny. (i would just spell it a little different) and her middle name Raylene cuz that is my and my moms middle name and I want the tradition to go on! yeah my brothers name is stephen but people still call him steve.. so good luck on that!! hehe
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To boot, be aware that overly cutesy spellings may end up really feeling oppresssive for some kids when they grow into adults.
For instance, if "Destanee" or "Genisus" wants to go into politics or editing (boy, that'd be an irony), he or she may find that spelling makes her colleagues take them a lot less seriously than something less funky, or something spelled correctly.
Overall, it's likely best in the interest of the child if kookier names or spellings are something they choose themselves later, or use as nicknames, not have as legal names.
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If you have your heart set totally on an unusual name, one sensible option is to give it as the child's middle name, with a more usual one as the first name.
That way, it's there, but the person can use it or not as they choose - some people opt to use their middle names as their first names (one of my sisters does, simply because she likes it better), while others go through life just giving their middle name as an initial.
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well thats fine that you feel that way.. but I have thought about that and I dont think Destanee is that bad. you can sound it out! and raylene is a family name. you cant just change family names. I dont really think that its that big of a deal. I talk on the phones all day for a credit crd company and there are some crazy names out there.. way worse than destanee and genisus. But no body gets mad when we might pronounce it wrong. And you cant tell what your child is or isnt gonna like when they are older before they are born. Some kid named Sara might hate her name and wish that it was Destanee or something. it depends on the person. A lot of people hate there names. I dont like mine at all but it was my moms decision to name me not mine.. so I deal with it!
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And I'm not going to make a federal case out of it, but just say that more than once, I've listened to grown adults with names that were simple, standard words mispelled "cutely" explain in embarassment to others that no, their parents weren't functional illiterates.
You can sound out "Destiny," too, and know what it is on sight. It's still unusual, but no one is going to think someone else's parents just couldn't spell.
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Ha! I taught for almost a decade and have since been doing this. I've been so busy taking care of everyone else's kids, I wouldn't have five free minutes yet to manage kids of my own. Not to mention that I'm not always heterosexually partnered (and don't plan to be for some time, if at all), don't have health insurance, and a total workaholic. Maybe someday, but not yet.
And frankly, if and when I do have kids, I'm more likely to adopt or co-parent than make more kids, so they'll probably have names of their own already when and if they come into my keep and care.
But as a lark, I find of loads of different names lovely (and tend to have fun with that when I'm writing fiction in naming characters, rather than reality or kid-daydreaming). With my own kids, I'd likely cull something from my own heritage, names from Italy or Ireland, but don't imagine I'd be comfortable settling on one until I actually got to lay my eyes on the kids and see what would seem to fit he or she individually. In many cultures, children aren't named right at birth, or even for years, until their personalities speak to their names, and I think it's a pity beaurocracy requires people name their children immediately.
But I like Italian family names like Lucia, Giacomo, Allegra, and family names from Ireland like Sinead, Siobhan, Leanan, Aidan and Seamus (though love Seamus as I do, I'd never name a kid that outside of the UK -- I've heard too many poor little boys called sea-mus, rather than shay-mus, as it's properly pronounced.).
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yeah.. I hear ya on the busy part. I am working full time in the evenings and going to school when I can. It would be so much easier if I didnt HAVE to work full time.. but my bill collectors could care less whats more comfortable for me and so they shouldnt! so yeah I am not planning on having kids until I am out of school and married. But I am going to have them someday!! but if for some reason I could not or my mate could not have children.. I would in that case adopt. I wish that I could adopt the baby my sister is about to have. She is 24 and is pregnant with her 4th child. The father is her drug dealer and her other three children are with there fathers and she never sees them or even wants to. People like that shouldnt be able to have babies. But she would never get an abortion. I hope that maybe she will put it up for adoption.. I feel bad saying that cuz it will be my niece or nephew.. but I know that being with her right now... would not be good for the baby. My older sister who also has 3 kids but is more mature and not on drugs and is married offered to take the baby for her.. but my sister is stubborn.. I just hope that she is not still ding drugs but I doubt even a baby could stop her at this point!!! on a lighter note and back to the subject! I also wanted to name my child something from my heratiage but I dont know any native american names except like cheyenne and I used to know a girl named cherokee which is what I am.. does anyone have any seggetions!! dont worry.. Im in no hurry!!!!
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as a person who has been afflicted with an ethnic name of my own, i gotta say, it's a pain in the arse to deal with people who constantly butcher my name (spoken or spelled), filling outforms and running out of blanks, having people constantly ask me to pronounce my name for their amusement (just shut up and give me my groceries already!).
I know it's fun to personalize a child's name, but i have to say, giving a kid a very out-there name or a name that's really out of context (my name is as common in Thailand as Jennifer is in the US) can be a burden. i consider mine a curse. But I can't bring myself to change it because that's just not me. i don't fit any other name.
(edited because i had a temporary brain lapse and misused a word) ------------------ more surly than girly...
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Word, Gummy. I have a particular french name, that I share with a famous Canadian singer (who's last name rhymes with Me On), and I still have trouble with people getting my name right, pronunciation/spelling wise. Not to mention, everyone I meet has to make a clever little joke "Oh, do you sing?/ What's it like being famous?/Any relation to the singer?" (It's a first name, stupid!) and thinks they're the first to make it. I wished often when I was little for a name like Sarah, and I'll probably boringly and sensibly call my child Mat or Jenny.
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word up, sista. no wonder you call yourself jane. i hear you on the retaliatory tactics. "Anne" is a frontrunner as far as names for my kids goes.
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When I was twelve, I was at some family function when I overheard some women talking about their kids, their husbands, their personal lives, etc.
And somehow I must have transposed their conversations in my mind, because I came away thinking that one of their kids was named "chlamydia." I was convinced that this was the prettiest name in the history of the English language, and I made a mental note to grace my first daughter with that ever-so-lovely name when the stork brought her to me.
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Now that poor thing would have a hard time in school. Oh, the name calling.
Well. My first name is quite rare. And my spelling is quite unique.
My middle name is spelled phonetically. Shiree.
My last name has been butchered to the gill. Somehow, one credit card company replaced the first letter with D. I don't have any clue how that one came about.
And wouldn't you know? I end up dating a Smith.
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i have a fairly unusual german last name that is constantly being butchered. i also get tired of people asking me "where it comes from." um, i have no idea. maybe it's an old family name. or maybe it's not.
plus, there was one other family in my high school with the same last name, and i still get phone calls for them - apparently, the school gives out my number instead of the other one for inquiries about colleges. it's very annoying.
but i don't really mind that. i'm not sure what i would name my kids, but i've always thought simone was a pretty name for a girl.
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