Im 15 years old and I just found out Im pregnate with my ex boyfriends baby and I am very scared. He doesnt know what he wants and cant make up his mind, and in the mean time Im loseing my mind. Please Help
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First thing's first: You need to start seeing a doctor for prenatal care if you haven't already. This is important regardless of what you decide; to ensure a healthy pregnancy; to ensure you have enough time to have an abortion; to ensure there isn't anything life-threatening going on, like an eptopic pregnancy.
You should also consider telling your parents if you haven't already. It can be scary, but it's important. I'll bump up some topics on bringing it up with your parents for you to read.
You're not alone in this, you can do this, and any decision you make in regards to YOUR pregnancy is the RIGHT decision. Many women before you have gone through this, and many more will go through it after you have.
Your ex might just be having some jitters. If he doesn't come around, or if he keeps giving you the run-around, there is no shame in being a single mother. There are legal procedures you can go through to establish just how involved he will be.
You might want to visit GirlMom and read the forums and articles there, and see if it's the right place for you. There are a lot of women your age there going through similar situations, and it is a great place to get support.
And, of course, you are more than welcome to stick around here. We're always glad to have new mamas.
So, here's my suggestion to you. Tommorrow morning, call the closest PP to you and tell them your situation, and they'll set up an appointment for you ASAP. Even if you have school, a lack of transportation, whatever, find a way there--you can get there by bus, taxi, asking a friend, or whatever way you can.
Remember, that when it comes down to it, it's your body, and ultimately, you are the one who is pregnant. So you don't need to rely solely on his judgement--make the best decisions for your life right now.
Find some professional help first, beenthere. And there's always a support group here at Scarleteen.
Please remember taht this is not just about what your ex wants - this is your body and your life we're talking about here... put some thought into what you want. It may be better to do this now, before you've heard from him, so you can truly think over your own needs and desires without letting his decision influence you.
Good luck in whatever decision you may come to.
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