Here at Scarleteen, we all know that "it's okay to be gay!" We're down with accepting people for who they are, whatever their sexual orientation may be, because that's just the right thing to do.
However, sometimes we may find ourselves being technically ok with homosexuality/bisexuality/pansexuality only to be surprised by our less-than-completely-accepting reactions when our friends, family or partners come out to us as being queer. We want to be 100% supportive and understanding but sometimes we need a little help getting to that place, which is why we have this thread. Please use this space to talk about where you're coming from and how you're feeling. Whether you're looking for a final nudge to don that "straight but not narrow" shirt and join your significant other or stepsister at this year's Pride festivities or would like to work on becoming truly okay with and accepting of the ones you love, we're here for you.
We're placing this discussion in the Support Groups area rather than GLBT Relationships or Orientation and Identity because we want you to feel free to express your concerns and look for help understanding. We know that people sometimes say things that are unintentionally hurtful when processing their own feelings; however, we also know that you would certainly not mean to say things that inadvertently might make queer users feel uncomfortable or unwelcome. We know you are here because you care and want to be a person whom your queer companions and comrades can turn to for complete, unconditional support... again, hence the location of this thread.
Here are some articles to check out before posting (oh yes, there are quite a few so please do pick and choose if you'd like):
Finally, please remember that the one near and dear to you took a brave step to come out to you and could probably use some extra support right now. Even though you may have reached a rocky place on your journey to genuine LGBTQ acceptance, doesn't mean you can't still can't -- in fact, you should -- show that friend some extra TLC and tell them how much you do care and like them for who they are!Posts: 3318 | Registered: Jun 2003
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I had a look through some of the articles and I think they're great. It also helped me to understand a little bit more about what my brother must be feeling.
My brother came out to my last night. Infact, he'd come out to my parents and they'd kicked him out, saying "We don't want a homo living in the house." I've always been accepting of gay people and I even have a few queer friends who are lovely, I just never expected my little brother to be. I also got kicked out a while ago (I'm pregnant) and I just wish I can make it all better for my brother, as well as fully understand him and accept him for who he is.
I stayed up with him most of the night, him sobbing in my arms, and my heart just about broke in two. It also unnerved me a little when he smiled a watery smile and told me that he has a partner who he really likes, someone I know and wouldn't expect to be gay. I'm so happy for him, but at the same time.. I just want to be able to accept him fully, and support him 100%, so I'd appreciate some advice. Those are great articles too! I especially liked The Making of a Homo.
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