Hi. I've been on various boards at certain times.
I've been sexually active with only one person.
I was hit heavy with news today, regarding my sexual health. I've had STD tests, and an HIV test, and a Pap Smear. When I had my STD test about five months ago, they said I was homefree. I had the Pap Smear about two weeks ago, and the results came back that I had an abnormal one. I figured it was something normal--because I read in a magazine (SELF) that it's common to have abnormal Pap Smears.
Today though, when I went to the gynocologist for the first time. A man, who I've never met before (my gyno) told me that I have HPV. That was a little over three hours ago, and the news has not fully hit me. I called my boyfriend, and he said that he's sorry. I want to end things with him because I'm just very confused right now.
Can I get this from using one of my sisters bathing suits? Does it have to be from sexual contact?
I feel like this huge burden has been pushed on my back. I always wanted to wait to have sex--19 seemed like an appropriate age. I had sex the first time when I was 17 with my current boyfriend, and I am 18 now. I have been completely faithful to him, and he swears that he has been faithful to me.
I know this is awful for me to ask for sympathy and advice, because I am the stupid one who did not use a condom all times. (I was confused about the term 'safe sex' I suppose.)
If anyone could e-mail me back or respond, I would be greatly appreciative. I am sorry this is so long.
Ah, I thought I was on my message, but I left a reply to someone about one of my parents. I didn't mean to--you can delete it. Please delete it actually. My reply went something along the lines of:
My parents don't know that I am sexually active, and I don't want them to know. But, because of this STD, should I tell them that I am sexually active? Should I tell them that I have this STD? I know they will be disappointed, but I don't know if they should know.
HPV is not going to be spread by bathing suits. Sexual contact -- almost always genital-to-genital -- is how it is transmitted.
Safer sex is consistant latex barrier use AND behavioural aspects AND annual or semi-annual screenings for all partner. So, if you didn't do those things, yes, you increased your risks. But cut yourself a little slack here: even with those things in place, HPV can still be transmitted sometimes. Moreover, anyone with only one partner can contract an STI. It only takes one.
In any event, yes, chances are pretty darn high this came from your partner, who either had HPV before he met you, or who contracted it from another partner during the time he was with you. In terms of your relationship, unless there are other reasons you want to terminate it, it might be worth discussing these things, especially if your partner did have other sexual partners before you and was monogamous through your relationship.
Not knowing you, your parents or the kind of relationship you have, it's hard to answer that for someone else.
In terms of any concern to their health, there isn't any. Again, HPV isn't passed through casual contact, so if you're sking in terms of what you might put them at risk of, there's no need for concern in that area.
So, whether or not you tell them is really about whether or not you want them to know, and if you want support from them with this.
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