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I need any advice you have on how to talk to my mother about me having sex and possibly using prescription birth control.

My partner and I have been sexually active for a couple of weeks. We talk about it, we're both comfortable with it, it's a healthy relationship. I want another form of birth control along with condoms. My boyfriend completely supports me on this. I know where there's a clinic nearby that I can go to and have complete confidentiality. However, my boyfriend and I both agree that it would be nice if I could talk to my mother and have her support. My mother and I have a good relationship. I think she would understand, however I'm afraid that she would put restrictions on my boyfriend and I, not let us go as many places together, not let us see each other as much, make my little sister tag along. I kind of want to go ahead and take myself to the clinic and go on a pill or get a patch or something, paying for it myself and then tell my mom so she can see that I can take care of it myself, that I just wanted her support and acknowledgement. I don't know whether she'd be proud that I could take care of myself and yet still talked to her, or upset that I didn't come to her from the beginning. Any advice? I'll take anything. Thanks! ~angstygirl

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Talk to your mom, matter what you think might happen. If you don't tell her, and she found out, she'd could be a LOT more hurt and upset than if you had just told her to begin with. Trust between you parents is vital to a healthy relationship, and you'd be showing a lot of responsibility and maturity by telling her than just going and getting the BC yourself

(Also, how old are you?)

Good luck! :)

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Yeah, I guess I'll tell her. I just don't know how. I'm 16.


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This looks like it would benefit more from being in Parents, Adults and Teens. Feel free to check out the other threads while you're there; we have lots on how to talk to parents about being sexually active!
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