hey all. im 18 and i feel like its impossible for me to be comfortable, or even truly fall, for anyone. there are some nice guys who ive blown off because i just dont feel "right" dating people. its really frustrating me.
ive had depression for about 5 years after a traumatic incident which i lost two friends in, but i feel like im moving on from that one. i dont see how it would affect my relationships though!
i was, however molested by my older brother (who now lives far away) when i was 10 but i never told anyone. i was sorta on the mindset that "time heals all wounds" but now im not so sure. its like back then i didnt realise how bad it was, but now the more i think about it the worse i feel.
its strange because about 2 years ago i was fine and dandy, i had all good normal girly feelings for guys and i really felt fine. now i get panic attacks and i dont feel right.
do you think its possible that ive lost my ability to feel like that? am i just thinking too much? i dunno.. anyone got anything helpful? maybe i just need some help.
it's not uncommon for people who have been sexually abused to have issues with forming relationships, especially romantic or sexual ones. In your case, I'd strongly suggest you seek counselling. Being able ot discuss your fears, experiences and concerns with a true professional who is qualified to handle those things will help you far more immensely than us internet amateurs.
While oyu don't see how these things are affecting you right now, a good therapist can sort these issues out in a way that you can understand and resolve them. So please, if you are in school, try to as your school guidance counselor for a referral. otherwise, there are other community resources you can use.
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