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Dancing - a perpendicular expression of a horizontal desire

Would you be okay with knowing that he's going out with other people ... ? Some people can do this sort of thing, but some can't, and it's generally a good idea to know what you're getting into before you're up to your knees in it.

That all said ... Personally, i think i'd have trouble having any kind of romantic ('friends with benefits' or otherwise) with someone with a history of cheating. Sure, i do'nt know the whole story, and you probably don't either, but that's something you may want to look into. There may not be much one can do to 'cheat' in an open ('friends with benefits') relationship, but it's sure as heck dishonest. And i don't like dishonesty. It doesn't have a place in any relationship, as far as i'm concerned.

"Friends with benefits" relationships can work out very well for some people, but they often don't work out at all for others.

First of all, people often forget that the phrase does include the word "friends" (it's not "casual acquaintances with benefits").

Genuine friends don't hurt each other, lie or mess each other around. If you can't trust someone and don't feel comfortable or safe with them, that person is not a friend.

In this case, if this guy was having a monogamous relationship with his girlfriend, then he's been lying to her - not to mention lying to you if he didn't tell you at the time that he had a girlfriend. That sets some major warning bells ringing in my mind.

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I still really like him

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Secondly, it's a really bad idea to agree to a casual, no-strings "friends with benefits" sexual relationship when it's not actually what you want.

I've seen a bunch of people on the boards who agree to a "friends with benefits" relationship while secretly hoping it'll turn into a big romance, then get terribly disappointed when it doesn't.