hi, im sorry, i know i keep talking about the time when my friend abused me, and you guys have done pretty much all you can to help, but theres been a new twist in the tale. The guy that abused me in the summer has just abused another girl. This is despite everyone knwoing about me and she still slept in his bed, she woke up wiv him trying to enter her from behind just as i did. She said stop 4 times, on the 5th he did and then asked her not to tell anyone. I keep thinkin that maybe if i had told a teacher or my parents, or even had an argument wiv him in college that i could have stopped this happening and its all my fault. Im also scared that its going to happen to another girl, because the girl its jus happened to wont tell ne1 or make it public knowledge.help plz and thank you X
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Don't blame yourself for what's happened, and don't imagine that by "arguing" with this guy you could have shown him that what's he's doing is wrong.
But remember that even if this girl doesn't feel able to tell anyone (although evidently she's told you, since you know about it), you can still tell your parents and/or teachers or the police about what happened to you.
If you raise the alert now, then maybe you can stop this from happening to another girl.
And if this other girl is willing to talk to you about what happened to her, maybe you can encourage and support each other in making a report.
just posting to say i totally agree with logic grrl. this is cuz sometimes i feel that maybe i should have spoken about my ex's abuse, then maybe i can protect girls who would potentially fall for him. i still think about this, and if i can in some way reach out to somebody else and help them away from trouble, i would definitely do so. so i encourage you to reach out to her too, and perhaps make it known that this guy is dangerous.
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