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Currently, I am working on getting over several very serious issues that have kept me from moving on with life, such as low self esteem and low confidence. I have been seeing a psychologist every week and have been taking my medications regularly. I've been working very hard at pushing through my issues. I've hit a few bumps, but that's simply part of the process of recovery.

It just feels like a lot of my friends have me in this "mold". I'm their "crazy, depressed" friend who was suicidal and self abusive. The problem is I don't think that's fair that they continue to see me in this light. I'm working so hard and it seems they won't give me the credit I think I deserve. They still say I have issues. I tried talking to them about this and they said I'm still emotionally unstable and that I really need to work on myself. They say I'm afraid to live life. I admit I still have things to work's a long process, but they don't see how much I've improved. It's not fair at all and it's makes me very upset! It seems they'll never think of me differently. Personally, I've taken a lot of big steps lately. I've even been able to say nice things about myself, which was near impossible only a few months ago.

Has anyone had problems like this? Please share. I don't want to lose my friends, but it's really not right I think. Thanks.

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I totally know what you mean. You know, it may be easier said than done.. but, you know the truth, and that is all that matters.

However, maybe it would help to talk to your friends. Tell them you don't like how they have this continuous and solid opinion of you as a person when people do, indeed, change and work on themselves. I've said it once, and I'll say it again: Communication is the key that unlocks all doors.

...i've done all i can do; could i please come with you?

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i'd make it crystal clear to your friends that their continued perception of you as depressed and whatnot is not encouraging to your personal progress, and moreover, perpetuates the self-destructive nature that you're trying so hard to shed. tell them that you are working hard to grow, and they need to encourage your progress. if the refuse to change their attitude towards you, it could possibly set back your therapy a lot. In that case, you would be much *MUCH* better off without them.

Correlation does not equal causation.

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