I am 14+ years old and would like to seek you experienced people for help on this issue.
I understand that arousals are the starts to erections,masturbation and other sexual acts.My arousals are the pictures of naked women and sex scenes that I have seen on the net and television.
I do feel aroused when I see beautiful women on the streets and can't help the temptation. I know that I am too young for all this as it does embarrass me and distracts me from my studies.
As I can notice that a lot of young women around my age are having sex with their boyfriends. Isn't this not right.
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Sex that hurts people or puts people at risk is Not Right. Other than that, it can be hard to determine what's right and what isn't. Some people might be alright with becoming sexually active at thirteen, but others might not be ready at thirty.
Getting aroused just comes with being human, and sometimes, nothing comes of it, and sometimes, people choose to have sex with otehrs, or masturbate. So long as all parties involved in partnered sex are of age and use appropriate safety measures, and the sex is consensual, I see no problem with it. Likewise, masturbation is safe, healthy, can be extremely satisfying, and has no age limit. Even babies do it. It's okay to be aroused, and it's okay to masturbate, and it's really not something you should worry about.
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No one can really say what's right and wrong in sex, but like Milke said, as long as no one is getting hurt, and no laws are being broken, there isn't too much of a problem.
You shouldnt' feel bad or embarresed because you're arroused. That's all part of being human and it's perfectly normal. As long as you aren't hurting yourself, you shouldnt' worry about it too much.
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Anyway, regarding both of the replies above, they are both right! Just that I have something to add ^_^
Although I'm new here, I hope y'all don't mind me addin somethin!
Likewise, to experience arousal is actually normal, although some of us find it embarassing to talk bout it, arousal, is normal, and you wouldn't be normal if you weren't!
Besides that, on musterbation, everybody has their own view on the topic. Personally, I think musterbation is a good way to overcome or answer sexual needs without having a partner. It is especially useful in cases such as shy people who have the impulse of having sex, but are not willing or too shy to share about it. I'm no psycologist, but if that urge is too great, it may lead to rape etc.
If you have urges, arousals, etc, feel free to share it with your personal friends, and if you are shy, speak your mind on the internet, where you remain annonymous!
To not be able to overcome urges is a great disadvantage, it may, can and will lead to disruption of normal lives. E.g. While you are doing your homework, your neighbour's making pie, which you crave for but you are too shy to ask 4 it. - Naturally, if you don't overcome that shyness, it will disrupt you in your homework and you may just lose your edge!
Anyway, hope I didn't step on anyone's feet while trying to make my point! If I did, please forgive me, and if you could spare the time, write to tell me about my errors!
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Troubled, have you explored more of this site than the boards? We have some really great articles on here that I suggest you read, both for information and to help you think about some of the topics that are bothering you. 14 is not too young to be thinking about sex, but it is plenty old enough to begin educating yourself.
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Hey everyone I don't know if this is the right place to post this question, and you can move it to wherever you want, I just though this would be a good place. You see, I'm very irritable lately and I don't know why. The problem is that I'm extremely irritable with only a few people. This one girl I used to be good friends with who I'm not really friends with anymore because I find her VERY annoying (even before I was irritable) and my boyfriend!! I really don't know why. Everything he does (almost everything) bothers me and I find him extremely immature, and we've talked about it, but I don't know what to do about our situation. I don't know what it means. It may mean that I just don't want to be with him anymore, or that I'm going through a phase. The problem is, I could never ever trust someone the way I trust him. He knows everything about me. It's like I don't really want to be with him right now, but I want to marry him later on in life. Does anyone get what I'm saying? I went away this past summer and I got used to him not being around so maybe I just saw that there really was life after him. Know what I mean? I did miss him, but not as much as I thought I would. We did break up for a little while in October of last year, but we talked as much as we did when we were going out. He's pretty much the only boyfriend I've ever had, so I'm thinking maybe I want to go out and "experiment" with other guys to know how I truly feel about him. I guess you could say I'm kinda bored with him. But he promises that will all change when he gets his license in 10 days. And who knows? Maybe it will. But until then, can someone shed a little light on my situation?? Thanks....
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Curious George, we can't move individual posts, so you'll need to either find a more appropriate topic to ask your question in, or start a new topic. Once you've done that, I'll delete your post from this topic, okay?
I'd suggest taking a look through the Relationships forum -- I think that would be the best place for this question.
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I don't know if this is the right place to post this question, and you can move it to wherever you want, I just though this would be a good place. You see, I'm very irritable lately and I don't know why. The problem is that I'm extremely irritable with only a few people. This one girl I used to be good friends with who I'm not really friends with anymore because I find her VERY annoying (even before I was irritable) and my boyfriend!! I really don't know why. Everything he does (almost everything) bothers me and I find him extremely immature, and we've talked about it, but I don't know what to do about our situation. I don't know what it means. It may mean that I just don't want to be with him anymore, or that I'm going through a phase. The problem is, I could never ever trust someone the way I trust him. He knows everything about me. It's like I don't really want to be with him right now, but I want to marry him later on in life. Does anyone get what I'm saying? I went away this past summer and I got used to him not being around so maybe I just saw that there really was life after him. Know what I mean? I did miss him, but not as much as I thought I would. We did break up for a little while in October of last year, but we talked as much as we did when we were going out. He's pretty much the only boyfriend I've ever had, so I'm thinking maybe I want to go out and "experiment" with other guys to know how I truly feel about him. I guess you could say I'm kinda bored with him. But he promises that will all change when he gets his license in 10 days. And who knows? Maybe it will. But until then, can someone shed a little light on my situation?? Thanks....
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