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Stephanie_1
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A friend told me today that her new years resolution was to be more honest with her partner about their sexual experiences. She explained that she often faked orgasm with him figuring sooner or later he'd find out exactly what she likes so she didn't hurt his feelings. But knowing that you need to learn more about a partner shouldn't hurt anyone's feelings.

One common statement that's made here at Scarleteen is that honesty and communication are important in any relationship, expecially sexual relationships. So maybe with the ringing in of the new year more of us may be able to take that step into finding ways to communicate openly with a partner. So ...
  • What do you wish you could be more open about with your current partner?
  • What advice might you have for others in a similar situation about something you've learned in being able to communicate with a partner?
  • What do you wish honestly might change in your relationship to make it better?


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MaddieCakes93
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What do you wish you could be more open about with your current partner?
- I would like to tell him how I feel when he sais things that make me mad, or things i dislike.
- He still hasnt given me an orgasm, but he really thinks I have it every time, because i fake it =/
- not fakeing it anymore,
- i fake it so he could finish already because I have to get home soon before i get a phone call from mom. lol. =/


What advice might you have for others in a similar situation about something you've learned in being able to communicate with a partner?
I think people should just be honest to a certain point . there are limits. You cant be mean and say ur were just being honost. For example.. "baby i dont like your legs , i want them to be more muscular and sexy.." thats not the kind of honesty im talking about.
What do you wish honestly might change in your relationship to make it better?
Maybe he might actually give me an orgasm , he once almost got me to it, but i was rubbing my clitoris at the same time. Maybe ill do that more and see what happens.

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Ecofem
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Hi Maddie, here is an article that I think will help you with that discussion with your boyfriend. [Smile]

Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner

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Ronlak111
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Hey Ecofem you provide very good article. It is helpfull in many manners like all about sex, condom basic, Birthmotherhood, Safer Sex...for Your Heart and many more. Thanks a lot for that.

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atm1
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Ronlak111,

Please do not continue to bump old posts unless you have something new to add to the discussion. This causes newer threads which need our attention to get buried.

I know you've been warned by other volunteers, so keep in mind that continuing to ignore our warnings may result in being banned from the site.

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