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Layla
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Hiya, My name is Layla and I am about to start my final dissertation for my Psychology degree....on sex! I was wondering if any of you darlins out there would mind helping me out by telling me your feelings on two questions/areas:

1) Do you feel that sex (sexual intercourse) has become more casual today as in less emotional importance is associated with it?

2) Do you associate sex with love or are the two divided (having sex with someone doesn't mean that you are in love with them)?

Thanx XXX


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confused333
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1) Do you feel that sex (sexual intercourse) has become more casual today as in less emotional importance is associated with it?
I feel it has become more casual today. It seems like alot of people are friends with benefits and having one night stands. I don't believe it is as emotional as it used to be.

2) Do you associate sex with love or are the two divided (having sex with someone doesn't mean that you are in love with them)?
I associate sex with love. I am not really into having sex with close friends or someone I just met a couple of days ago. I wait until I know they love me and I love them. I just think that is how it should be.

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logic_grrl
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1) Do you feel that sex (sexual intercourse) has become more casual today as in less emotional importance is associated with it?

Actually, I think a lot of people have sex "casually" or thoughtlessly (before they are ready for it, for example) precisely because of the emotional and social significance attached to it - having sex to "prove" your love for someone, or to try and keep a partner, or to feel grown-up.

I'm not sure what you mean by "sex (sexual intercourse)", by the way. I think often the importance people attach to intercourse leads to treating other forms of sex more casually - because it's believed, for example, that oral sex isn't "actual sex" and so "doesn't count".

2) Do you associate sex with love or are the two divided (having sex with someone doesn't mean that you are in love with them)?

Well, they are two separate things. Having sex with someone doesn't automatically generate love, and loving someone doesn't automatically lead to sex (and of course there are lots of forms of love apart from romantic love). Treating sex and love as identical seems to cause a lot of harm and confusion.

But for me personally, sex is a very intimate and personal thing. Therefore I wouldn't choose to be sexual with anyone I didn't trust and care about.


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OoMEoO
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1) Do you feel that sex (sexual intercourse) has become more casual today as in less emotional importance is associated with it?

It is definitely not as emotional. People are always having sex with people they don't even know and having one night stands and such.

2) Do you associate sex with love or are the two divided (having sex with someone doesn't mean that you are in love with them)?

I, personally, don't associate sex with love. But thats just me. I just have to know, care about, and trust the person I am having sex with. Yes, exactly, when I have sex with someone, it does NOT mean I love them.


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-Jill
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1) Do you feel that sex (sexual intercourse) has become more casual today as in less emotional importance is associated with it?
I think it's now easier to have casual sex. At this point we have options such as birth control, condoms, lube, STD/STI screens, home pregnancy tests, etc. available to us Many of them are inexpensive and all of them are widely availble. Since safer sex is so easy to do sex doesn't have to be a huge life-changing event. It is possible to have sex and move on with no harm done. Personally that knowledge allows me to relax and enjoy sex more - and it also means I don't need to put an intense emotional value on it.

2) Do you associate sex with love or are the two divided (having sex with someone doesn't mean that you are in love with them)?
I defer to logic_grrl on this one - she summed it up perfectly.


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mnsouthpawjr
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1) Do you feel that sex (sexual intercourse) has become more casual today as in less emotional importance is associated with it?

I think people especially teens are engaging in more casual sex than they did even 20 years ago. Why? The media which includes the internet, magazines, television, and movies promote sex at no cost. These industries promote how easy or soon sex happens. Also, peer pressure increases the amount of casual sex. Sex seems to be a competition rather than a show of love.

A 14 year old posted on this site about having sex more than 3 dozen times with different partners. How many of those encounters contained no emotions and were casual?

2) Do you associate sex with love or are the two divided (having sex with someone doesn't mean that you are in love with them)?

I personally think that sex is divided between the 2. I think 53% of the people are having sex casually. My belief NOW is that sex is meant to share your emotions and love. However, my past belief was casual sex was o.k. with trust and protection. Now, I can think casual sex is saying your partner is a number and not a human.


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morganlh85
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1) Do you feel that sex (sexual intercourse) has become more casual today as in less emotional importance is associated with it?

I feel that many teens today have taken much too lightly the consequences of sexual activity. They do it for fun and to feel good instead of to share their love for a person. People are having sex even though they are too immature to really understand what making love is all about.

2) Do you associate sex with love or are the two divided (having sex with someone doesn't mean that you are in love with them)?

For me love and sex come hand in hand. Although a person in love doesn't have to have sex, a person having sex, in my mind, should always be in love, and in a long-term, trusting, and committed relatonship. I have lived my life by these rules and I'm completely happy with all the decisions I've made regarding sexual activity. I just wish others were so lucky.
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