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I am going to my first prom this year! Yay, and I'm going with my friend Elena with whom I am not madly in love (if only I could get that through my parents heads). My mom and dad insist I pay for her ticket but I think it is kind of a silly old tradition that the guy pays for everything on the date. What if I go with a guy next year(through some miracle involving an openly gay 16 year old going within 3 miles of my school)? Who would pay then? I mean, it's nice and everything if the date offers to pay for the ticket, but I wouldn't want to ask her to pay for it were the situation reversed. What do you all think?
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Posts: 356 | From: Phoenix--name that plurally | Registered: Dec 2000
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well, i'm old-fashioned and i *love* it when a guy insists on paying. but who asked who to prom? did you ask her? then maybe it'd be best to pick up the check. did she ask you? unfortunately, it's double standard time. you go dutch in this case unless you want her to think you're a cheapskate. if parsimony is a-ok with you, then let her deal with it. but if she's not as progressive as you wish she were, then she might be very disappointed in you. if you're friends with her, this will be a real source of friction.
if you're just griping abut the $$$ but you'll suck up and pay anyway, then don't go to a pricey restaurant. i'm not saying the McD's drive-thru is okay, though!
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Posts: 12677 | From: Los Angeles, CA ... somewhere off the 10 | Registered: Jul 2000
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i forgot to include a very important point.
i paid for my prom and my prom date.
he was from a different school, it was my senior prom, and i have money and he doesn't.
as a result, my mother was pissed off when my credit card bill came in. she said that is was completely improper for me to pick up the tab and that if he were any sort of gentleman, he would have paid for everything.
but that's my mom talking, not me. i'm a DIY sort of person. i wanted stuff to get done and i preferred not to rely on him to order flowers, make reservations, etc.
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Since you guys are just friends, then splitting the tab for dinner would be a good idea. I mean, you guys split dinner when you go out normally, right? But if you did ask her to the prom and can spare the money, you should pay for the tickets. And if you can really spare the money, or realize that girls' dresses can be quite costly at times, then get the tickets and dinner. But otherwise, splitting at least part, if not all, is fine. I think the least awkward thing to do is to split dinner and pay for tickets yourself if you can, personally.
Likewise, if you split the prom tickets and you asked her to be your date, then pick up dinner. This would be at a nice restaurant, doesn't have to be the fanciest, ritziest one in town, but at a place where you guys won't look too out of the ordinary in a fancy dress and suit or tux. Have fun and be safe!
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Depends. Are you paying for other things, i.e. the limo, dinner, etc.? If you are, then you shouldn't have to pay for everything. I think you should both split the cost of tickets. Unless she's really poor, or you're really rich or something, that's the way you should go.
Posts: 304 | From: Pittsburgh PA | Registered: Aug 2000
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my boyfriend doesn't go to my school - he graduated 2 years ago - but he's coming to my prom anyway. i'm paying for tickets, he's paying for the limo, they serve dinner at the prom. i feel a bit bad, cuz it's not even his prom, but...it's so damn expensive. lol
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Posts: 786 | From: Washington, DC | Registered: Dec 2000
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Well, I haven't had my prom yet, (next year ::gets all excited: . I know whats going to happen.
My boyfriend will pay for the tickets, and everyone will pay for their own limo seat. My parents are going to buy me a dress, getting the hair done, and getting the make-up done. And I think my moms getting me some jewlery. Ohhhhhhh, girlies I can't wait!!
Thats all I know for now. I'm not all planned, but thats good enough for being a year away!!
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i'm paying for tickets, he's paying for the limo, they serve dinner at the prom. i feel a bit bad, cuz it's not even his prom, but...it's so damn expensive. lol
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