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alaska
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...is apparently $6.50 a day. That’s what a court in Malaysia ruled in a case where a wife sued the woman who “broke up her marriage”. The total price of the 27 month affair is $5,263.

The husband, who – according to the ruling- had a “50% share in the affair” - didn’t have to pay any damages.

What’s your view on this?

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Well I suppose its a better punishment than the more common, death by stoning or amputation of a limb. Thats what they used to do to adulterers (and still do) isnt it ?
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Ugh...as someone who has had two 3-year relationships succumb to cheating, I say make it $6.5 million

Being poly is one thing, because discussing your plans in advance (read: communicating) makes a huge difference. But going behind your partner's back is an extremely hurtful thing to do...and there is no price that can make up for battered emotions.

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And the male in the affair wasn't punished because...?
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I see that as hideously unfair. It was the husband who had an obligation to his wife. The "other woman" had no obligation to her whatsoever, although she was being socially irresponsible.
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I’m with you, Beppie, completely.

The idea of awarding damages (because this is apparently not a punitive thing, but rather damages) to a cheated-on-wife not by her husband but by his girlfriend, is simply wrong, and the idea that there’s a legal basis for that strikes me as odd, too.

Morally, "cheating" (and lets everyone remember that you can cheat during a poly relationship, too, being poly doesn't mean being completely open) is wrong, no doubt about it, but to transform this moral judgment that completely omits the other person responsible for the affair and who had an obligation to the wife (i.e. the husband) into a legal one simply isn’t...right.

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