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Bragorien
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What can you call a guy?

As a kind of term of endearment, I get "my girl", "baby", "honey", ya-da y-da...

But what can you call a guy back. I;d hate to "compromise on his manhood" by calling him something overly syruppy.

What do you call your partner? (Other than like, theire name of course. XD)

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strumpet
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my man's name is gerard, and the only pet name to come out of that is Grr Argh, which rolls off the tongue surprisingly well. not much of a pet name, i suppose, but it really stuck.
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Heather
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Of course, I can't help but beg the question as to why there's a need to be concerned about names which might make men feel diminutive, but not the same concern for women?

In other words, I'd say pet names are silly and goofy and also about an intimacy, a place/relationship where I just don't see a need for anyone to have those concerns. And if you do have them, it doesn't seem sensible to only have them about one gender, eh?

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evilstrawberry
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Dear, darling, love, handsome... those are more general but I've found that as you get close to someone and spend time together, personal ones just pop up and stick.

I'm inclined to agree with Heather as far as diminutive names, because I've always found things like "baby" not only a little condescending but laughable and weird...I am not my boyfriend's "baby," and would not want to think of him as mine. But that's just me, and pet name are really individual preferences.

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StrangePudding
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I call my boyfriend pretty much the same things he calls me - babe, darling, sweetheart, sweetie, love, beautiful, honey, hon. I also tell him he's pretty a lot. I've asked him if that bothers him re: not feeling masculine, but he doesn't mind. It's really about what you both feel is appropriate, I think. But I do agree with the stuff about having different standards re: diminutive names between genders. It probably wouldn't be cool with me if he told me I couldn't call him something but he could call me that, but I think that would be indicative of a larger aspect of his personality I might have a a problem with that is just manifesting itself in pet names.

idk if that made sense o.0

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LondonBlue
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I actually tend to call my boyfriend pretty feminine names, and he rarely has a problem with it. There are some that he thinks are too feminine ("baby doll"...for some reason it just comes to me sometimes lol), but in general he doesn't care. I generally call him babe, darlin, sunshine, cutie, cutie buns (he has cute buns...).

I think it's best not to worry about it unless the guy (or girl) complains about it.

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