In american society, sex is a taboo. until the age of 10, my friends and I would not only spell sex out, but we spelled it s-e-double hockey sticks. That was wheter we were refering to sex as gender or sex as intercourse. People go to great lengths to protect kids from seeing or hearing about sex. Parent can opt a child out of sex ed. my question would have to be why? Why does a natural act have so much bad publicity? Why are kids sheltered from it? Ideas on this?
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Because, rightfully, it can be deemed as something young people shouldn't be taking part in until they are old enough to truly understand what it is. When you spelled it "S-E-double hockey sticks" did you have a clue what you were talking about?
However, I completely understand what you're saying. If I didn't I would be a complete hyprocrite because I think sex education and information is so so important. If every teenager knew about Scarleteen I think the world would seriously be a better place
BTW, I really don't think it's just taboo in America. Maybe just more sheltered?
In many religions sex before you are married is considered wrong. Plus, in my opinion sex is something special that should be shared with someone you love. When you have sex you open up a part of you that has been pretty much private and give part of yourself to someone. I think it's okay to have sex with someone who you really love when you are absolutely ready. But it seems that nowadays people are way too open about it (at least where I live anyway). I think sex is something that shouldn't be casually talked about like "hey you guys, I just had sex with my boyfriend." Many people think that some things are best kept to themselves, especially when so many people lately are having pre-marital sex at very young ages. Not that all pre-marital sex is wrong, but many people do it when thay are not ready and for the wrong reasons.
Again, let's PLEASE remember that sex is NOT simply sexual intercourse.
Sexual intercourse is one KIND of sex. Sex can also be masturbation, it can be petting, it can be oral sex, and if it gets you aroused, it can be eating an oragne, for crying out loud.
I should perhaps also add that the great majority of the world's religions don't actually concern themselves with pre-marital sex, and some of them don't even view marriage as a sexual contract or union. A few of them don't even *have* a concept of "marriage."
I'm not judging anybody morally, because I don't think that any kind of sex is wrong. I'm only saying that one of the reasons why people don't talk about sex is because they feel that it should be kept to themselves or because of religious reasons. I'm saying this based on the opinions of people I know. In my own religion it is deemed wrong to have pre-marital sex although I don't always agree with that. I think everyone has a right to do whatever they want as long as it doesn't endanger themselves or others, and I have never judged anyone for their morals. Just in case anyone took any of my posts wrong, I never meant that having more than one sexual partner is wrong, or that sex at a young age is wrong (it isn't as long as you are ready), or that wearing sexy clothes is wrong. I'm sorry if anybody took it the wrong way. In my school people make immature assumptions about other people (nobody ever objects, although I do when I hear it) and almost all of my friends have engaged in some sort of sex or have dressed sexy, so that's why I'm not judging anyone.
I really can't encourage those of you interested in this sort of thing enough to really research sexual history and anthropology.
The truth of the matter is that all around the world, for a LONG, LONG time sex has been about many, many things.
Throughout history and in various cutures it has been monogamous and polygamous, a PLETHORA of different sex practices have been practiced amoung people, and so forth. The idea that we have gotten LESS sexually conservative through history is really a misnomer. Truthfully, we have gotten far MORE conservative, and that isn't necessarily global. It's largely a product of our own culture, most notable in the twentieth century, from the Victorian Era onward.
Personally i think it's just another way to contrain people, like all taboo's are, sex, sexual freedom, and sexually eduacate are all extremely powerful tools as far as confidence, and self incouragement go, for me at least, sex has had a big effect on just the way i get through things, and it also helps me understand and explore who i am, as well as who, my partner is. I don't think it culture should be so afriad of something so, you know, great. But you know knowing what you like and going for it tends to be discouraged.
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