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Etch
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She has decided to give the baby up for adoption. Anthony (father to be) actually got to see he on Sunday (without he family knowing) and she had decided to give it up. Either today or tomarrow she will be searching for some potential adoptive parents. I think that this is a good step for her in the right direction.

HOWEVER, and this is a big however, she still has decided not to go back to school, ever. This is bad. And everyone knows it. Even Anthony. Of course she also said she would never give the baby up, and now she is. I think if I keep my hopes up, with gentle encouragement (not one of my specialties... i tend to use tough love) she just might decide to go back to school. And perhaps her parents might make her. Anthony came up with the suggestion of an alternative school ran through our school but at a different location down the road. That is another option i hope she considers.

Anyway, I just had to give that update.


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How old is said friend again? because if she's under 16 in the states, she legally HAS to go to school.

And I do hope you mean she's working with an agency. You really can't search for adoptive parents on your own, save from weird personals ads now and then.

And flatly, even if you could, I don't think most full-fledged adults could culpably manage the whole process (pregancy, birth, lawyers, money, etc.) on their own.

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i would love to adopt a baby. my husband agrees. although i am not of legal age yet. the only thing that i would be worried abut would be the biological mother coming back and trying to take the baby. if i could adopt that baby i would.

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I dont know if she is going through an agency. I assume so. I heard this from her b/f so it might have gotten a little confused in her head.

She is 15 presently. I cannot remember when her birthday is, i believe it is in May but i am not sure. I forgot to mention, she went to the doctor and she is 8 weeks along.

I just hope she goes to Abel (the alternative school i mentioned) I dont know exactly what will happen though.


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If she is 15, she legally has to be in school.

Honestly, the best thing you could do for her is to tell the prinicipal of her school that she is out of school without plans to come back. I know that sounds harsh, but it ain't half as harsh as trying to get through life without even a high school education -- and in the chance that she changes her mind as has the baby, she's going to be screwed if she doesn't even have the education to get a minimum-wage job.

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