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Miz S., I was sitting in school today bored out of my mind and I thought of something. Are you planning on ever having any children? If that's too personal of a question, just tell me. I just think you'd make a great mother if you were ever to become one.
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I'm sorry you're that bored in school, Ash.
But it isn't too personal a question (you guys really can ask Hanne or I just about anything), and that's a very lovely compliment. As you may know, I taught special ed, pre-kindergarten and kindergarten for a long time. My partner is a high school teacher. And I do this. All of those things give me a pretty good idea about what I really need to have together to have kids and raise them the way I feel best about, and those things aren't there yet. For instance, working 80 - 100 hour weeks isn't going to cut the mustratrd with a kid around, and neither is my not having health insurance.
I want kids, and I plan to have them in my life in my own family soon. But I'm also not hog-tied to the idea that they have to be my biological kids, and in fact, my partner and I feel pretty strongly that, for numerous reasons, we should have only one biological child if we have any at all, and adopt any others.
That given, it allows me a lot of freedom to wait until we both really feel ready and prepared. if that doesn't happen in the next decade, then we'll simply adopt when it does (as I don't think it's a great idea to be giving birth in my fortites).
But again, thank you for the compliment. Really, that's a lovely thing to say.
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I agree. Miz S, you are very kind, gentle person. You would be a great mother, or a guidance counciler for a school. I think of as kind of like the guidance counciler for Scarleteen. Thanks so much for all your help!
I do have a question though. Why only one biological child? I don't see where you and your husband are going with that. I just don't understand. I mean, they would be your children, but I was just curious.
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Because our planet is grossly overpopulated, Keoki, and we feel strongly that there's no reason for us to make it any worse when there are scores of great kids around the globe already without parents or homes.
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Ok, I see. I was just wondering what. I think that is a really good idea. I would want to have my own children because they would be part of me, like genetically. That's just me though. I think it's great that you would take in a child that has no home or parents. You are a very compassionate person, Miz Scarlet. That's great!
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If I ever felt the need to have a child, I would DEFINITLY adopt. My reasons for this are: Selfish reason-PAIN pain pain and more pain. I'm terrified of needles, I'm terrified of blood and I soo don't fancy the idea of a human dropping out of my vagina and ripping it on the way. Less selfish reason-There are a lot of kids without parents and it just seems sensible that parents without kids should take these kids. What I'd really like to do is adopt a street child from Africa or something, but that's very hard to do. In fact it's very hard to adopt any children in England at the moment unless you're a size 10 saint (don't ask) I know some people want the genetic link thing but that just doesn't mean that much to me. Maybe I'll change.
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YOu pay a certain amount a month and that money goes to a child of your choice. I pay about S$45 which is maybe US$20 every month and that money goes to the child's education as well as to help the child's parents get involved in farming so that they can make a living.
It's a really great idea. I mean, come on, how many of us REALLY need that extra CD or shirt? So, if you have that money to spare why not check out the website and adopt a kid?
I decided to adopt my kid when I read an article in the newspaper. Children as young as 6 or 7 were being forced to go into war. THey are fed GUNPOWDER every day to keep them high and give them that adrenaline boost. These children wake up every night shaking with the nightmares that plague them because of the gunpowder.
When I was 6 or 7, I was eating ice cream and Mcdonalds.
If you can't spare the money, you might like to volunteer your time. If you need more info, check out the website or feel free to ask me.
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My mum's friend adopted a little girl from China, and is raising her with her sister. Doing so apparently was pretty difficult, but actually having the kid with them has been good, and she seems quite happy with the whole situation. I've never seen her but I've been told she's got an incredibly radiant smile for someone so little. So it can work. But on the other other hand, Ms S. is mum to her animals . . .*sigh* I want that puppy, and I'm a cat person!
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Oh when I mean adopt I don't actually mean you adopt a kid and bring him/her over to where you are.
You just provide the child with money so that he/she can have an education, food to eat and clothes to wear. You can visit the child if you want and send presents and all that.
Generally, you only send money to the child until he is about 16.
Haha. While Miz S is a mum to her pup, I think I am a stuffed toy to mine. He is teething and all he does is bite me. Sigh
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I just think you'd make a great mother if you were ever to become one.
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