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Joe19
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Hello! Ok so i have read a few topics you guys have and im
Still very worried for some odd reason, ok so heres my situation. The other day i masterbated and then i changed my underwear and peed after.(just to be safe). Then 2 hours later went to my girlfriends house and she kissed me and gave me a bj for like 30 seconds, she touched my penis but she didnt touch the top because thats where her mouth was, after that she went to take a shower, my concern is that what if she had precum on her hands and went to take a shower? Could pregnancy happen? Also after her shower i went pee again and then just ran my hands under water with little to no soap, then dried my hands and then fingered her. Would any of these scenarios pose a pregnancy risk? It was also a week after her period started so it was the 7th day out of like 30?

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Sam W
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Hi Joe,

Can you start by reading this thread and seeing if you can figure out where your situation falls in terms of risk?
http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?/ubb/get_topic/f/10/t/002611.html#000000

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Joe19
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Yes i have i just would like an explination on if its a pregnancy risk because its kind of somethkng that wouldnt be on there
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Heather
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Yet, it is listed in our material about risks, under oral sex and manual sex. The risks listed for those activities would be the risks here.

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So are you saying that there is no risk? I seriously just want to stop worrying about this. I have so much stress and if i can get someone to tell me that there is no risk then i should be okay
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Heather
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The thing is, we are the people who WRITE the information we have given you. We're not going to say something different here at the boards than we say there.

It's also really important that we do our best to help all of you by helping you learn to navigate this stuff on your own, rather than just talking you off a ledge. That way, you don't wind up again and again looking for someone else to do for you what it's really important to do for yourself so you can best make your own right choices.

What did that link Sam gave you, and other links within it, tell you?

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So there is no risk of precum going into her vagina? After what all i have said
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Sam W
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I will repeat what Heather said: what did the articles you read say? As we are not going to give you a different answer than what you read there.
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I read the articles several times. i just worry because even though i peed after i ejaculated would the precum contain sperm? Like i went pee and maybe precum was on my penis? I did run my hands under water and wipe them, and before all this she took a shower after she gave me a bj. I know i worry soooo much many times and my girlfriend gets sick of my
Worrying. I just would like to know if it poses a risk. I cant understand the risk levels.

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So, urination actually flushes any remaining sperm out, so doing so makes pre-cum less likely to contain sperm, not more.

With that in mind, can you tell me what part of the risk levels you're not understanding?

If engaging in this level of sexual activity is causing you stress, it is sound to consider scaling it back to a level where you feel more comfortable

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Ok so from what i understand is that soap would kill sperm. So if she went and took a shower like 1 minute after a bj and IF there was any precum on her hands and she went to wash her hair would the precum go down to the vagina? And also does urine kill sperm? Like if i urinated and got urine on my hands, then rinsed my hands with water and wiped them would any sperm be left on my hands
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Sam W
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You are correct that soap would kill sperm. But, even beyond that, sperm is really, really fragile. It can't survive the transition from penis to hand to vagina, let alone from penis to hand to faucet handle/doorknob/etc to vagina. So the situation you described to us is simply not a way pregnancy happens. I would give this a read as well:
Who's Afraid of Sperm Cells?

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So basically your saying that indirect contact of precum of any sort is not possible?
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Yes
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Even if it was sperm? What if her vagina was moist because shs just got out of the shower and i fingered her. I went pee and maybe i got pee on my hands but i did rinse them. Also does pee kill sperm?
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The presence or absence of sperm in the pre-cum does not change the risk level. The same goes for how wet she was. And no, urine is not a spermicide.

One last time, if this kind of activity is causing you this level of stress, it is sound to scale it back. We can talk to you about ways to do that if you'd like. What we will not do is continue to rehash the risk level of this situation with you.

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Ok so hopefully this will relieve my stress, thank you so much, i have a history of worrying over this situation for the past year and its like glued in my head.
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You're welcome [Smile]

You may want to take a look at both of these articles, one to help you with the stress you're feeling now, and the other because it has suggestions about what to do if you can't shake a pregnancy fear:
Self-Care a La Carte
You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are?

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