Usually the first thing to do is just to let her know that you are available to support her, in whatever she needs.
The best tack often is to really base what you do on what your friends wants and needs, because everyone who has survived a rape needs different things at different times. Some people may want to just be distracted and do all they can do to live their lives normally: others may want to talk, may want help reporting, seeking out counseling, etc.
So, best bet? Ask her what you can do, and make clear that it's about her needs.
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another thing (besides Heather's message, which is very important) is that if she doesn't already know what medical help or official measures are available to her (school rules, laws, etc. for retaliation) you may want to get her that information. a lot of girls won't use it, but I think it's good to let her know her options (b/c a lot of girls don't know).
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