So things haven't always gone well for me in the friendships department..and I've been fine with it in the past but lately it's been really bugging me.
I had a counselor not too long ago and after he ran me through some tests, he told me I have an over-excited brain that responds highly to visual, auditory and kinesthetic stimulation altogether.
And he theorized that that's why I have trouble making friends with other regular teenagers, because i'm so extroverted and open about myself..he says it could be difficult and overwhelming for people who meet me for the first time, and I end up driving them off.
Recently a lot of exciting stuff has happened in my life and things are starting to look up, but I don't really have anyone to share it with, and my small handful of average-closeness friends don't really care about what's going on in my life and it feels kinda lonely to not have anyone to share things with..
School starts again in mid January and i'm hoping I could meet some friends there in a "normal" way..but at the same time I feel like maybe being myself is the best way to go and i'll just have to wait and see who genuinely enjoys me being who I am.. I'm not super lonely but my girlfriend can be very self-absorbed, my mom doesn't share much of my interests and my few other friends are all busy clubbing and drinking 24/7 over the school break.. None of which I find even remotely appealing ideas.
Maybe you need to connect with some other extroverts? If that sounds like a sound plan, we can talk about where you're more likely to find them.
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What does your daily routine look like? Do you spend enough time engaging socially with other people?
I have had trouble making friends my entire life mostly because I am too introverted. I think if you are extroverted, then it should be much easier for you to make friends. So it sounds like you just need to make a few adjustments.
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