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Nea21
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Hi,me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship since last two years.in these last two years we have hardly met each other for 20 to 25 times.whenever he is away from me we talk everyday on phone without fail.so like most of the times we meet on phone only.we do video chatting sometimes.initially we used to talk till 2 or 3 of midnight.we never used to get tired of speaking.but later on due to studies and exam we had to cut it down.So now we speak maximum for one hour so. but nowadays when we speak we both feel like there is no spark in our conversation.many times we take pause during conversation.we have to think of a topic.and we both love each other a lot.but the thing is there is no excitement in conv. We speak normal day to day things.and we can not even meet anytime we want as he stays quite far and my parents dont know about our relationship.so i cant go and give surprise to him.please help me as to what should i do to get that spark back? Any ideas?
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scotthoser1
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I think I would tell your parents about the relationship so you will be able to go visit him. My boyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship for six months last year. We talked online, on the phone, and by webcam. It's definitely not easy. It's good you've made it two years. I encourage you to tell your parents. I'm sure they would understand. I think it will make you happier and help your relationship.

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Nea21
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But telling my parents is not that easy.they are kind of orthodox.they had actually told me not to be in a relationship until i finish my career.but inspite of that i am with this boy whom i really love.and he is also very understanding. Again,even if i tell mom,i dont think she will allow me to visit him for like even 1 whole day.i am not going to tell her that i am also in a physical relationship with him.so its like,really difficult.
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Nea21
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Can anyone please help me out??
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Stephanie_1
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Nea, have you thought about going on cyber dates? Setting places and times to meet, eating the same food, etc? Also, sending little notes via mail rather than e-mail for something different. And pictures of you places, then talking about doing things there.

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I've never been in a long-distance relationship but both the close friendships I've had, which have been my primary relationships, have been long-distance for a long time. So I kind of know how you feel.

I agree with Stephanie's suggestions. Also, maybe you could play online games together, if there are any you both like? Maybe watch a movie/TV programme at the same time and talk about it? Send a small surprise present snail-mail? Or maybe you could just take a break from talking for say a week, and then when you do talk again you'll have lots more to tell each other.

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I know it can be very difficult to tell your parents.
At least you know that you still love each other. It's normal for relationships to slow down once in a while. Maybe you could tell each other about funny things that happened during the day or any trips or outings that you took. Or discuss cricket with him. He will enjoy that! [Razz]

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