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punkgirl 95
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recently i found out that i might have skullosie, its where ur spine isnt streat and is cuvred. this is odd scence i am 15.
i told my bf about this and he told me "alright thats it not more girnding till ur back is 100% better" i'm very happy that he cares more about my bad back than sex but i feel like im being cut off fom my "fun" time with him. last night he fingered me and when i tryed to get on top of him to plz him he told me to stop. i stop and got off but it hurt my feelings a lil. he told me hes sorry to tell me not to but he just dosentwant to hurt my back just so i could plz him. i think thats sweet till i started to feel bad cause he could still plz me but i couldnt plz him the way i usely do. i told him this and then he cut off ALL Sexul activitys till my back is better. i didnt like this but agreed to it.

i still want to do sexualy activites w him but just ways that wont hurt my back.
we do grinding (with all of our clothes on) and fingering.
is there anything i could do besides oral to plzz him?

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Have you talked to your doctor about if you need to limit motions because of scoliosis?

It's actually not odd for teenagers to develop scoliosis. I know a few girls who also developed it while in their early teens. You are not odd at all.

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ok, and no i havent, he didnt tell me that i shouldnt move aany serten way. i guess its just basicly any movements that bring me pain, but thses movement dosent hurt me.
me and my bf have never had real sex before,we would both be each others frist. he knows that there might be pain for me the frist time we do it and says that he dosent want to add any more pain to it.
tonight i went over to his house and told him i had a supires for him i went to the bathroom and changed into a sexy lil black dress. i can back and he really liked it but still he told me no.
but latter (after he made me changed back into my regula clothes) i got him to at lease change his mind to gind. i told him that during this there was no pain for me and afterwords that there wasnt any pain for me. and now i think hes thinking about changeing his mind about all of it.

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Yeah, I wouldn't think you would have to avoid certain movements unless it was causing pain. But if I could say, it would foster better communication and trust in the relationship if you were to discuss sex and the progression of your relationship sexually rather than try to push him into it.
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If he's feeling unsure and doesn't fully understand how this illness will impact you, maybe you can bring him along to your next doctor's appointment and have the doctor answer his questions? It can sometimes be really hard for someone on the outside to gauge how an illness impacts someone, so getting reliable information from a knowledgeable source may put him more at ease.

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ill try it.

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