my bf of 18 months and I split up in october, got back together briefly, and split up again. At first he was texting me all the time telling me he missed me. I ended up at his house one night and we had sex, the whole time him telling me he loved me and didn't want to lose me. The next day was fine...I was confused. I missed him so much I asked if it meant we were back together and he said "We'll see" he stopped texting me as much. I thought I was pregnant, I was vomiting in the early mornings and my period was late. I took a test and thank god I wasn't! And we started talking again. My dad got surgery and then the surgeons told us he might have bone marrow cancer, the whole time my ex was bitching to me about his day but didn't ask once how my dad was doing. I flipped out, I was so mad at everyone he happened to be the first person to get the wrath of it. I told him I just wanted to know if we could ever get back together like he said we would, because I felt like my heart was breaking every time I didn't get an answer. He told me I was nothing to him. I called him and apologized and apologized. We met up in the field where we had our first kiss and he held me as I cried about being worried about my dad. He told me he wouldn't let me feel alone.I felt so vunerable and alone that he invited me over to his house later that week and we watched movies and I talked about my dad and how he was doing...I felt like the whole world was crashing on me and he was the one person who understood..and we ended up making out on his coach, where again he told me he loved me. The next morning he sends me a bunch of texts saying how he shouldn't have done that. He was the one that made me sit next to him on the sofa, that got me talking , held me as I cried, that kissed me first The next day he told me... He said he wanted to go on a date with this other girl but now he felt guilty and wouldn't go. I called him up on the phone crying and he said "We shall see what happens pretend last night never did though" But I cant! I still love him and I want somebody there in my life who knows what i'm going through. His dad died of the same thing and I just wanted a friend who knew how this all felt, but every time I try and talk to him he smacks in(metaphorically) in the face. He promised me he wouldn't be seeing other girls because he was just too busy with school...I feel like I can't trust him or anything he says...but all I want to do is talk about two nights ago. I want to talk to him about what he went through and about us, but I'm never getting an answer. And don't you know this boy is breaking a broken heart?
Posts: 29 | From: Philadelphia | Registered: Nov 2010
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I think you need to focus your attention on yourself for a little bit. Once you are stable and your life is more stable, then would be a good time to work with that guy. But that guy doesnt sound like the nicest person. Take time and create some distance between the two of you. If you still feel that you still love him after a few weeks, they maybe think about talking with him again. But from my experience, once a relationship is ended, it should stay ended. They tend not to work!! thats just from my personal experience! hope this helps!!
Posts: 42 | From: va | Registered: Oct 2010
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DUMP HIM!!! He obviously doesn't know he's got a good thing and he is not worth all the crying you've been doing. I get he's the "only" one who gets you, but if anyone tells you that they love you then take it back a day later has issues. Forgive the brashness but as a 23 year old who's been there, I wouldn't want any girl to have their world revolve around a guy who takes her for granted. Good luck.
Posts: 1 | From: Texas | Registered: Nov 2010
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You need to look out for your own emotional health, not the health of the relationship which is technically over. It would be better to concentrate on dealing with your worries over your dad's health and your own self-esteem, not on trying to fix this relationship. It takes two to fix it, and even if you were able to fix it, your life won't magically go right- the other problems will still be there. And frankly, he doesn't seem to want to have a relationship with you again- in fact, it seems that he is taking advantage of your vulnerability. Maybe you got used to depending on him during the relationship, but now you have to stand strong.
Exes are exes for a reason. If those reasons haven't changed, don't even bother with him. You're better off without that stress and weight on you.
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