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Alright, long sotry short my ex broke up with me two months ago.. There were a few weeks where we almost got back together but I told him no and not to contact me. Well, he text me probably 3 or 4 weeks ago telling me goodmorning, asking how I was and blah blah. I didn't reply... Well then a week ago I found a cd at my doorstep.. I saw it said my name and I was slightly confused.. only when I realized who the band was, was whne I knew it was from him. I was SO pissed off I made a bad choice and asked him if he left it here, then I sent another text telling him not to reply because I dind' want to talk to him. Well he replied saying he still cared and he was sorry for trying. I of course snet him a text saying I didn't want him to try, I didn't want him to care. I cant be his friend and we would never ever be a couple and to leave me alone. Well he didn't reply. So I was happy.

Until last night, I got a text from him saying 'have fun tonight!' because I was waiting in line for HP at midnight, he knew I was a huge HP fan...

I don't know what I have to do to get it accross to him that I really don't like hearing from him and really don't want too.. I thought I explained myself clearly that I didn't want to talk to him and that we would NEVER ever be back together.

And before anyone thinks that maybe he's just being friendly.. like he wants to be JUST friends. It's not true.. We have a mutual friend who I was talking to about things and he said 'he knew my ex broke up with me, but he also knew my ex wishes he had me back'. I don't want him back, and never will. I just don't know what to do to get him to stop. I don't plan on texting him... but I don't want to delete his number in case he calls or texts and I answer either or... ya know?

GAH!

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Heather
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First things first: can you block him from your phone? If not, it sounds to me like it's time to change your phone number. Clearly, you're trying very hard to set your limits and boundaries, but he refuses to hear or respect them. That doesn't surprise me, since it was a huge part of his behavior when you were together. Clearly, he's not changed, which is also unsurprising.

So, that means you have to change something: continuing to ask isn't working. Changing your phone number will.

In terms of things left at your door, I'd simply nonrespond in the future. Just bring whatever it is to the trash and don't contact him about it.

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I don't know if changing my number would do much. We have a lot of mutual friends, some that I could never lose contact with.. I don't think they would give him my number but I'm afraid he would somehow get it..
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Have you checked into blocking him from your phone? A lot of times there's either a setting to block a number - or a way that you can have them blocked by calling the phone company. Take a look through the phone settings and call settings and see if there's a way to block numbers.

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I don't think tmobile does that.. but I will find out.. Sorry I forgot to mention this. [Razz]
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