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Okay, I met this guy from a mutual friend last spring semester. He and I hit it off pretty well, we have a lot of things in common etc.
At the time, I had a boyfriend so this guy and I would conversationally flirt, but nothing came of it. He facebooked me, but we never exchanged numbers and only really saw each other when doing something with our mutual friend. I knew that he liked me, and I'm fairly certain he knew I liked him. However, my friend told me at the time that he "liked lots of girls", which I interpreted as him being only interested in hookups.
Summer break came, I only spoke to him a couple times over facebook and never saw him.
When we came back to school, I didn't have any plans to see this guy, but I just happened to run into him at a party last night. We exchanged numbers, he walked me home, and we ended up staying up talking until 5:30. We were sitting close together, but it wasn't physical or anything. And, when he left he kissed me goodbye.
Now, its been pretty much a whole day and I'm wondering when I should expect a call?
Should I even expect one--does it sound like he's only interested in casual sex and will only contact me when he wants that?
it might be worth noting that he invited me to a party he's hosting next weekend, so I already know when I'll be seeing him next.
Also, how should I proceed about this relationship? Since I just got out of one, I'm not looking to have a boyfriend immediately. However, I've liked this guy for a few months and I'd like to keep the possibility of a relationship open for a later time. I've never really tried the casual thing, so I'm not sure if I want that with him. Would it likely ruin my chances at a real relationship with him later?

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Have you thought about calling him instead of waiting for him to call you?

As for figuring out what he wants, we can't know that, and the only way to find out for sure is to ask him. Since you know that you're not looking for something exclusive and long-term at the moment, you need to let him know that, and you can ask him what he's interested in at the same time.

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