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I was in a commited (14 month) long relationship until about 5-6 weeks ago. Overtime, I've developed a crush on this really cute, sweet, handsome, talented guy. But it's been forever since I had an innocent little crush... so as stupid as it sounds, I almost forget how to deal with it.
He's in two of my classes, and we've had short casual conversations before. I want to talk to him more often, start considering eachother as friends, but I'm at a total loss for what to say to him. (I'm more of the quiet type, especially at school, /especially/ the classes we share. I don't speak unless absoloutely nessecary.) I don't want to start a boring conversation, I don't wanna start off to personal or random, and I also don't want to sound like a stalker by discussing the band he likes. (To be honest, I started listening to them for him... but I like them for myself!)
I can't come out too strong and flirt. He's in a commited relationship, dating one of my casual friends. In my eyes, the situation is nerve-racking, embarassing, and a tiny bit hopeless.
Any ideas to get to know him better?
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I'm a little confused here. What exactly are you looking for with him? Do you just want to become friends with him?
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For now, I just want to be friends. With him being in a relationship with my friend, I just want to know if there are any icebreakers to get a friendship started
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Hi Interpol, for starters, out of respect to your friend and to him, I'd put any inklings or secret hopes of a relationship with him on the back burner. (Actually, I'd turn the burner off completely.) If you feel you can't do this, then it's probably a sign that keeping your distance for now would be best.
As for icebreakers, just talk about stuff you have in common: you can talk about an assignment in a class you have together, the weather, music in general, etc. And if that feels too hard, then I'd also just leave it at that. I'm sure you're not boring and a conversation would be fine, but just like you'd want things to feel "natural" with a romantic partner, you'd also want them to feel natural for a friendship.
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