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I am 18 and my Dad is 73 I am an only child and my mom's 56. My mom and i think that my dad has alheimerz but he refuses to go to the doctor. When we went to Flordia a couple of years ago he got lost walking on the beach and was gone for 12 hours. It was very scary. He has alot of problems remembering things. He asks the same questions several times in a short period of time. I get very frustarated with this and alot of times find my self being very short with him or even yelling. I love my dad and I don't want to be like that. Has anyone gone through this? If so how did you handle it? I appreicate any advice.
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My great-grandmother had this disease years back. It was hard for me, her having been the woman who raised me the first nine years of my life. I'm not quite sure what you can do, though I know detection at an early stage can help greatly. I'd advise talking to your father's doctor or even your doctor yourself. Finding out all you can. Tell them what has been going on with your father, and if it is what you think, perhaps the doctor could help you. Find out what you can, and see if the doctors have an idea to whether or not it is what you think.
I do send my sympathy, and I know how hard this can be on you. Watching not only the effect on your father, but worrying about whether or not you'll be what is forgotten next. Just be there for him all you can, show him your love, and remember there are people out there who are in the same situation.
My grandmother has the same disease. Well she's had it for a few years now. It's obviously very advanced. We have had doctors confirm this. We do not know how much time she has left. It's actually a disease that takes years..
anyway, the constant annoyness is still there. Her husband passed away almost a year ago.. So now she's living with us. She also spends time with my dad's other siblings. It is weird to see her have different reactions than she had like say 10 years ago.
To cope, well it's obviously difficult, but you can't control her disease. Its impossible. So all you can do is put up with the person, and love them anyway. It's the time you have with them regardless what they do or whatever is precious.
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My father doesn't have a doctor and as long as I can remember he has never been to a doctor. My mom and I have tried to get him to go and so had his sister. He just won't go he refuges. He says he is perfectly fine and that he doesn't need to go. He can't remember if he has eaten and I think that he forgets to eat during the day when no one is home. Its just all really frustrating.
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You should suggest that your mother seek power of attorney for your father. My mother had Alzheimer's and my father didn't get power of attorney while she was still legally competent. So she eventually had to become a ward of the Public Trustee which can get complicated.
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