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lozzy57
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Ok, my boyf and I have been together for 8 months now, we met when I moved to London for a gap year, and at the end of the summer I had to move back to my family home, 500 miles away.

We've been managing pretty well so far, sending letters and emails, texting im'ing and calling. I think one of the reasons we have managed to stay together so easily (although it was by no means *easy*) for so long is because we do and always have communicated well.

I was just wondering if anyone had any other advice to keep our relationship strong? Or some ideas which will bring a smile to his face?

(only 12 days until we see each other again!)

P.S. Apologies for my strange title... it's my new favourite phrase!

[edited to add in P.S.]

[ 12-07-2008, 10:48 AM: Message edited by: lozzy57 ]

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Chin up darling - knock yourself out!

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bluejumprope
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It's great that you can communicate well. You might find this interesting: Going the Distance: A Few Thoughts on Long-Distance-Relationships

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lozzy57
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Thank for the link, my boyfriend and I have already read it together - just last week in fact!

Well... when I say 'we' I mean that I forced him to endure my monotonous reading it to him lol

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Chin up darling - knock yourself out!

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MJandDC
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Good luck! My boyfriend and I spent 2 years of our 5 year relationship long distance, though not as far apart as you. We talked on the phone every night. When he studied abroad in Japan, we instant-messaged almost every day. The thing we didn't get into until almost the end of our time apart was webcams! They were great and totally worth the relatively small expense.

The one thing I regret about our time apart is that we ended up fighting quite a bit about the distance itself and when/how/whether we would get to live in the same city again. It seemed like one or the other of us had to make some sacrifice (in our career, education, or time with family) and that was hard to deal with. Especially when we got really serious, that became an issue. For a long time I was only willing to move to his city, if he would promise that sometime down the road he would be willing to do the same for me. Once I gave up insisting on that point, we got along a lot better. Good luck dealing with that, if it comes up for you.

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