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over the course of four months, my girlfriend and i have been getting increasingly closer. both emotionally and physically. i know about pretty much everything that goes on with her and she knows what goes on with me. i was wondering if it is appropriate for us to be having mutual masturbation among oral sex and such. she and i are each others first real relationship and first real anything to be honest. we love each other and would like to spend all of our time together. but i want an outsiders perspective on where we should be, if it would be wise to go on to making love, or anything of the sort, any input would be nice, and if it helps for anything we both are of the age 15.
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in my opinion, it really depends on you for the oral and mutual masturbation, as my friend who is also 15, is giving oral sex and the such. you should decide whether or not you want to,but, on the having sex/make love part, you should check out the ready or not list on the main site, and note that it is illegal to have sex under the age of 18 in many states. i'm sorry, but this is all I have to say.

what is reality? it can be a dream, right?

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hmm, thank you anyway, i was aware of that, i think it is 16 here...

anyway, thanks.

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Just a hint that there is no real place as to where a particular relationship 'should be'. It totally depends on the individuals within it... I know of relationships that have been going on for a few years with couples who are in their 20s, where they only feel comfortable with kissing each other and only wish to participate in intercourse once they are married (with no oral or manual sex involved at all). As long as you and your girlfriend are comfortable and happy with what you're both doing and the pace the relationship is at then your relationship is totally fine.

Banana's dream is right in that you should also consider the legal ages in the state you're in... however also consider the requirement for sex between those both below the age of consent. I know that where I live, while the age of consent is 17, if you and your partner are below that age and over 14, with there not being any more than 2 years between you, then you can have sex.

I wouldn't recommend you just head straight to having vaginal intercourse just yet,especially considering you're both new to this... by the sounds of things you may just be more comfortable working your way towards it with manual and oral sex if you feel comfortable with it.

Anyway, just remember that there are no real rules with physical intimacy within a relationship... you and your partner should just go with what feels right to both of you at the time [Smile] Good luck with it all and if you have any more questions feel free to just ask

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