I've been talking to a guy for about 3 months now and only about a month ago did we decide to start dating to see where it takes us. We're not official or boyfriend/girlfriend or anything, just testing the waters to see whether we want to go to that level or not. I already know he does, he's expressed it to me in various ways. But I'm not sure if I do yet. I like him a lot, I care about him so much and he makes me smile...but I still find myself being indecisive when it comes to going to that next level. One day I'm ready to say "Yes, I want to be with you" and the next day I'm like "I'm not sure...not yet." I don't want to string him along and I don't think I am, I just want to know how I'll know when it's right. I know he won't wait forever and it's not right to expect him to, I just want to do what's best for me. It's so easy for me to think I want someone or that I love someone just to find out I don't and I don't want to do that to him...but I also don't want to get hurt or repeat mistakes from past relationships. Is there an article or checklist that can help me make the right decision for myself about this??
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Well, it's often like that in the beginning of a relationship. It's normal not to be sure about whether or not you want a serious relationship with that guy or just want to stay friends or else. It takes time to figure that out and I don't see any rush.
So, how about taking things slow ? If you are interested in maybe dating him, how about doing that, going out with him and getting to know him better ? You'll for sure figure out at some point or another throughout the course of dating whether or not that is really what you want.
Too, it would be a great idea to have a talk with that guy about your feelings and his, too.
I'm afraid I don't know of any checklist though, I think you'll just have to go with your feelings, but maybe another volunteer or user could point you towards one.
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