I've been woo-ing a girl for a while now and while she says she doesn't want a real relationship until she's finished this year of school we went on a date last week. I always do something that freaks a girl out and scares her away. I've told her this and she assured me that nothing could freak her out. But I've done it, I posted pictures of my brain from a CT scan I had onto myspace and apparently that's to morbid for a girl who's favorite book has homosexual-vampire-blood-orgies every 5 pages. So how do I fix this?
Well, for one, you could try not being so snarky about this. I'm sure some people might see a difference between fiction, and real-life CT scan pictures of a friend.
There's always the chance that we'll cross a line at some point with friends, especially if we're still getting to know them and don't know where all the lines are. So it's not an issue with you specifically 'freaking girls out'. All you can do about that is being respectful and understanding when it does happen and remembering to pay closer attention next time.
So how do you 'fix' this? Talk to the girl about what happened. Explain why you saw nothing wrong with putting the pictures up, show her that you also respect her feelings in the matter, and possibly let her know you're ready to take the pictures down if they bother her.
-------------------- Johanna Scarleteen Volunteer
"The question is not who will let me, but who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand Posts: 9177 | From: Cologne, Germany | Registered: Sep 2005
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