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usandthem8
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When I'm with my girlfriend, even the slightest thing she does will get me aroused. We'll make out for a while and have dry sex and I'll stay aroused, but it seems like if we break after going at it for some time, I'll lose my erection. Then, for the rest of the night I usually won't be able to get an erection. This doesn't happen all the time, but it happens enough to worry me. She wants to try manual sex, but by the time she's ready I'm not lol. Should I get more active or something? I'm not overweight but I'm not really in shape, and I try to run and work out a litte every day. I don't masturbate a lot (if that has anything to do with it.) And we've been dating for over a month now, and she's more experienced than me. I haven't done anything past dry sex. Any advice?
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Heather
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Well, the nice thing about manual sex is that even if you don't have an erection, you can still engage in manual sex for her.

Timing being right with any two people and sex is always something of an issue. Even though in your case, arousal creates erection and it's not exactly the same for her, if she wasn't aroused, sex wouldn't feel very good for her, even though it would technically be possible. This isn't anything you need to fix: no one's body can just hop to every single time sex is put on the table.

It's nothing to worry about, though. Plenty of times, one partner will be in the mood or all there when another partner is not. You just wait for those times where you both are. You also have the option of adjusting your timing, and only getting started with any kind of sex when you're feeling it. In other words, next time you go to start with the making out, that's when you also do the manual sex.

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