Ok so i know that not everyone is like this, and this question does not really have an answer, but why do guys and girls hide their feelings when they like someone? Is it because of a fear of rejection? I am with my girlfriend, and she has liked me since february, and i liked her before that, but we just recently confessed our attraction to each other (through a text). But i wonder why guys and girls can't admit their attraction again, because we have secretely liked each other for a while now, and if we had just said something sooner we could possibly be going out for at least four months. Has anyone else noticed this? Thank you for your time.
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Ok, so I understand the question, and my boyfriend and I got together through a similar situation. When classes started in January, from the first day of classes we sat next to each other and were even lab partners and we flirted and joked for a month and a half. In the middle of February he started asking me to hang out on the weekends since "his friends were going home for the weekend and he'd be really bored" finally I agreed to give him my cell number so he could call me when he needed help on a very easy assignment. After hanging out twice he texted me one weekend when we both went home and asked me if I liked him cause he didnt think I did (we're in college so this junior high move was sooo cute) I told him I did and he sent back a text saying that was good cause he really liked me too. Needless to say we've been going out ever since, but the reason it took us so long to act on our feelings was cause we were afraid of ruining our comfortable friendship, and if we broke up and still had to be lab partners that would have been weird. Mainly though we were both afraid that the other person was just being friendly with no intentions of being anything other than friends. Thats my take anyways, we still joke and laugh about how we felt like we were in junior high trying to get the other persons attention. The fact that it took us awhile to get to where we were going out wasn't a problem it gave us time to get to know each other and gave us some cute memories to laugh about.
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Yeh I guess people are just scared about the consequences for the existing relationship if the other person doesn't feel the same. Even if your just casual friends - there is the potential for a lot of embarrasment there.
Me and my boyfriend were best friends first and it took ages for us to admit our feelings for each other. Like we'd known each other since we were little kids and I knew he cared about me heaps but when we were younger he was more like a big brother the way he was towards me and I wasn't really sure if he felt THAT way about me now that we were older. It would have been really arkward for us if I went to profess my love for him and he still saw me more like a little sister. But then we were the same, thinking we could have been a couple months ago. But it happened, thats the important thing, we've had more then two and a half years together now.
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