My boyfriend have been together for a few months now, and he is ready to move on sexually. I too am ready to start moving our relationship forward, but I'm worried about him. I've had sex, and experimented sexually quite a lot, with quite a few partners (always safely though!), but I'm the first person he's been with, he had his first kiss with me etc.
Although he says he's ready, I'm a bit worried that he feels he needs to have sex with me to keep me interested which really isn't true - and I've told him so.
I think our relationship is really stable and likely to last a long time, as does he, but I'm so terrified that if by some chance it doesnt work out and sex changes everything (i know it will, but i mean changes thingsfor the worse) then how will he feel about himself, or me, afterwards?
Should I go for it with him, ultimatly I can't decide when he's ready...
-------------------- Chin up darling - knock yourself out! Posts: 26 | From: London, UK | Registered: May 2008
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Reading them together may help. It's possible he's ready, and you need to trust that. It's also possible he's not but is saying he is. Ultimately, there's no way for you to know, but it's important for you to keep talking.
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