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nothankyoufriend
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How are you supposed to talk to new people when they are always surrounded by others? I have talked to this guy maybe once, and he sits far away from me. To make it harder, he sits by girls, and I pretty much believe girls are possessive of their guy friends. I don't know how to talk to him without coming off as some cheesy person trying to pick him up or something, especially when he isn't really ever alone around me. I usually don't try to make the first move with people because it will happen naturally, and if it doesn't... I don't bother. However, I really want to meet someone new. How do I get him to initiate something or how do I get a chance to talk to him?
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kiss_me_stupid
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heya, well this situation has happened to me, and i know how hard it is. just try and interact with him even if he has other mates around him. talk about what he likes like football or something. I did this last year and now me and that person are really close friends. Doesnt matter what people think of you, as long as u succede thats all that matters. Hope this helps [Big Grin]
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quote:
Originally posted by nothankyoufriend:
I usually don't try to make the first move with people because it will happen naturally, and if it doesn't... I don't bother. However, I really want to meet someone new. How do I get him to initiate something or how do I get a chance to talk to him?

I'm not sure I understand this at all. There's nothing unnatural about initiating a conversation or asking someone on a date -- someone has to do it or else no one will ever date again. Trying to get the person you're interested in to make the first move, without actually communicating with him in any way, does not seem like a very effective method of getting to know people.

I know the idea of being rejected is scary but I still think you're going to have to be the one to make a move here if anything is going to happen. It can be something as simple as introducing yourself and starting a conversation about class to something like working with him on the next group project. Heck, just say hi.

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