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pretzel27
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I'm a model, I just bought a wig to give myself a different look in my photos. Myself and everyone else included like this wig/style so much I plan on making it permanent. The problem is that although I am 19, in college, and make my own money, I must ask and then later get denied permission to cut my hair!

Now, am I still stuck in some sort of rebellious teen stage where I only see things from my view, which is that ITS JUST HAIR, or are my parents being completely irrational here?

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Gumdrop Girl
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You're a model. Therefore, it's not just hair. It is part of your job to maintain it as your employer sees fit. If your new style does not permit the same versatility as your current style, then don't change your hair. Changing your hairstyle could jeopardize your appeal and usefulness as a model. In other words, it could be a bad career move.

Just one more way the fashion and looks industry keeps women under their thumbs.

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Rina
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Well, I think she's talking about her parents denying her permission? Am I right? Or is it your employer?

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pretzel27
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If anything, changing my style will only enhance the response from employers considering my hair is pretty much plane jane as it is.

A little background, I cut 4-5 inches off my hair last year and they threatened to take my car away. This time, they decided they were going to cut me off(no pun intended).

The ONLY reason I resorted to a wig is because I COULDN'T actually change my hair due to my parents. Obviously my employer doesn't mind the change in style if there's a wig involved.

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AB
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If you are 19, in college, and making your own money... shouldn't you be able to decide for yourself if you want to cut your hair or not?
I don't see how your parents should have any control over your hairstyles. You're an adult.

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Heather
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One thing I notice in situation like this a lot is the dischord between "children" who are legally and practically adults, but who remain dependent on parents in some way (or all ways, in some cases), so in other ways are NOT adults.

Really? The easiest solution to things like this is to just take those final steps to be independent: you're of an age where you're fully capable of not being dependent on parents for anything so they can't take things which are fully yours away, or can't make choices for you which should be yours. So, why not make whatever changes you need to to change the situation so that things like this just can't be an issue at all? You say they'll cut you off financially, but you can (and IMO, should at legal age) do that yourself at this point.

If you stay dependent, then things like this will likely keep happening because of the oxymoron of being an adult but not living like one: make sense?

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