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I don't know if it's the same where y'all are but around where I live, everyone in general is against interracial couples. In the past people at school have stopped talking to one of my best friends because she started dating black guys. They said it's against their religion but that they had no right to interfere in her love life and yet they completely ignore her because of it. I've recently started dating this guy who happens to be black and I haven't told anyone, mainly because my parents would probably kill me. [Smile] Everyone's been saying I seem different and a lot happier lately and asks me why. Should I tell them the truth, or just lie?? Eventually they will find out but I don't know whether it should be from me or someone else. Any advice????

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Gumdrop Girl
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Well, there are a few factors here:

1. Your boyfriend is 19 and you are 14. The AoC in TN is 18.
2. Your social climate is racist.

Let's put these things together: If your bf gets caught with having sex or even TOUCHING you, he could get in trouble. Because he is black, in your area, a racist jury (let's not even try to pretend that justice is truly blind) could put him away for a VERY long time, and when he comes out, he'll be tagged as a rapist.

In a perfect world, i'd advise you both to abstain from sexual activity and stay within the obunds of the law, but be proud to have a happy relationship.

But according to some of your posts, they suggest you may already be sexually active or considering it. If that is the case, you really risk ruining this boy's life. Is it worth it to you to risk his safety just to get your kicks?

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To add to what Gumdrop said, if your parents are really as racist as you say (or even if they just don't want you dating yet PERIOD), if your parents ever found out about your boyfriend then they would most certainly hound after him until he was looking at a VERY long prison sentence.
There are other ways to enjoy each others' company without having sex. You should really focus on those other legal ways instead. Kissing can be just as enjoyable and doesn't land anyone in prison. Also, you said that you are worried you won't even be in a relationship with him anymore soon because he's going away to college, so do you really want to start having sex with him knowing that your relationship can't last that long?

Listen, strange women lyin' in ponds distributin' swords is no basis for a system of government. Supreme executive power derives from a mandate from the masses, not from some farcical aquatic ceremony.--Monty Python and the Holy Grail

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