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thejoesboy
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I just escaped from a 6 month relationship that I thought wasgoing well. She was my third girlfriend, and was so far the longest lasting. We were both virgins and had not been sexualy active together. Or so I thought. She had sex with one of my friends and at least three other guys while we were going out, and who knows how many before.

This brings me to 2 points. The first is that she told me under no pressure that she was a virgin and the second is she slept around.
How can I prevent this?

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dailicious
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Honestly? There's not a lot you can do to prevent someone lying to you or cheating on you. Some people are just not honest to their partners, or other people, and it's not at all fair TO those other people, but unfortunately that's life.

There are a whole lot of people who ARE honest and trustworthy, though, even if you've had a bad experience with one girlfriend.

The best way to protect yourself, especially when sex is part of the euqation? Be insistant and consistant on using protection (condoms) and that you and your partner both have STI screenings to make sure you're not putting yourselves at risk for STI transmission.

[ 01-01-2007, 09:41 PM: Message edited by: dailicious ]

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thejoesboy
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I guess I wasn't thorough enough or maybe there really isn't an answer. I just want to be someone that people, whether in a relationship or just friends, can trust. Maybe its because I spent all of the time on the phone just listening to her voice, and watched her instead of the movies.

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Aww, dude, I'm sorry. That really sucks. It's not your fault. It sounds like you were being a wonderful boyfriend and she took that for granted. There are good people out there, you just unfortunately went out with a liar. I agree with dalicious, you can't prevent people from lying to you, but you can prevent STI transmission.

Better luck next time :hugs:

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thejoesboy
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For some reason, Snark, you were like really motivational. Thanx ya much.

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No problem [Wink]
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Heather
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I'm not hearing, just to be sure it's clear, that this is about YOU not being trustworthy: this is about someone else not being trustworthy.

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thejoesboy
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Its really about both. I haven't had much time to think about it all ever since. I'm thinking about appologising about overreacting afterwards, not even considerin g getting back together though...

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thejoesboy
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Not that I want to get back together with her, but I just sent her an appology, I guess I felt bad about the way I handled it. The main reason I flipped so bad when I found out was that we started off so strongly. Most of the Highschool relationships around me could hardly be described as romantic, and the romanticism was reciprocated, so I don't think it was like a stifling relationship for her, either.

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missy07
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There r plenty of other ppl out there that u could trust it just takes time to find the right one.


I'm really sry she cheated on u. I've been cheated on before to I know how u feel.

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