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All the websites tell me to go talk to a school counselor. Or to call a hotline.
Well, I'm 18 now, and so is she. There are no hotlines to call and no school counselors to talk to. There is no one there who is willing to help you and eager to make it all better. We're still teenagers, but we're on our own now. And no 18 year old has the money or the initiative for this kind of sh*t.
I'm losing one of my best friends to drugs. I can't handle it anymore; I hate watching her descend like this, but there is nothing that I can do. I don't know what to do. There's no money, there's no help. There's just my friend dying there right in front of my eyes. I don't even recognize her from three years ago. I want my friend back. I want Julia back. I want to curl up into bed with her again and lay with my arms wrapped around her talking about life. I want to see her dance and make omolettes and sing into her spatula like she did every morning that I slept over. I want to see her look me in the eye coherently and follow a conversation. I want to know that she'll remember me calling or dropping by or telling her something important. I want her back!
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I feel so bad for you. But I don't really know what to tell you. I just wanted to reply so that you knew that someone read your post and was touched by your honesty. Tell her how you feel! Best of luck...
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Have you tried talking to her? Maybe if you sit her down and ask her why she is doing this and tell her how much it hurts you, it'll get through to her. If not, maybe you could talk to her parents or other friends and try to organize some help for her?
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You could also try an intervention. There is a show on TV that does real life interventions of drug abusers. Maybe just try to google intervention, or if you catch the show, I think they do show a number that you can call. But showing that the people close to her care and see that she's slipping is important, it makes her have to choose, as a former abuser of some drugs, it comes down to simply wanting to do it for yourself though, realizing you have a problem and addressing it.
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Like I told you in our last conversation, too, so long as she has the job she has, drug use is going to be something of a given, and in a lot of cases, that gig is also going to keep the door wide open for her habit being enabled and even encouraged.
So, in this case, you're really kind of talking about a full-life makeover, of which kicking the drug habit is probably only a part. And there IS help for that: have you found some of the resources we talked about as possibilities yet?
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i always wanted to know why guys are so fixated on sex and why they feel they need it all the damn time???? can't they ever just have fun without it??? Posts: 2 | From: Hanover,PA | Registered: Oct 2006
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First off, let's not go into generalizations; all men can't possibly be fixated on sex all the time, and there are even a good amount who don't put much stock in it at all. I'm sure the vast majority know how to have fun without sexual activity, too.
If this is a specific problem of yours, we'd be very happy to help you more in depth if you start a topic in the appropriate forum. Posts: 4636 | From: USA/Northern Europe | Registered: Oct 2005
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